Flame Tamers Worksheet
Flame Tamers Toolkit
1:1 Anger Management & Coping Skills Strategy Sheet
Name:
Date:
Anger is a normal human emotion. It tells us something feels unfair or overwhelming. Our goal isn't to never feel angry—it's to catch the heat early and tame the flame before it burns out of control.
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My Early Warning Radar (Catch the Spark)
What happens in my body right before I explode? (Check all that fit)
Hot face / cheeks Clenched fists Racing heart Tight jaw / grit teeth Heavy breathing Stomach knots Loud voice / yelling Want to throw things
My #1 earliest warning clue:
My Top 2 "Spark" Triggers:
What situation usually lights the fuse? (e.g., being interrupted, losing a game, feeling blamed)
Trigger A
Trigger B
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The Coping Skills Buffet (Pick Your Tools)
Not every tool works for everyone—find what fits you!
Physical Energy Release
- Wall push-ups (firm pressure 10 sec)
- Squeeze a stress ball or therapy putty
- Rip up scrap recycled paper
- Fast brisk walk around the room/hall
Reset & Regulate (Body Clues)
- 4x4 Box Breathing (In 4, Hold 4, Out 4)
- Cold water splash or ice cube in hands
- 5-4-3-2-1 Sensory Grounding scan
- Slow sip of ice-cold water
Brain Defusers (Thought Traps)
- Ask: "Will this matter in 3 days?"
- Say anchor phrase: "I can handle this."
- Hit pause button (count backward from 10)
- Name the true feeling (Hurt? Tired? Embarrassed?)
Space & Expression
- Step into a designated "Cool-Down Corner"
- Scribble / draw the feeling hard with marker
- Put on headphones / quiet music
- Ask for 2 minutes of silent space
1:1 Action: Star (★) or circle 3 skills above that you are willing to test out today.
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Skill Test-Drive & Action Blueprint
Practice now when calm so your brain remembers under pressure
Experiment Lab
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Test-Drive Lab (Try 2 Skills Right Now)
Pick 2 skills from page 1 to practice with your counselor/coach for 60 seconds each. Rate how each one actually felt in your body.
Skill #1 Name:
Rating: ☆☆☆☆☆
How did my body feel while trying it?
Would I actually use this when mad? Why / why not?
Skill #2 Name:
Rating: ☆☆☆☆☆
How did my body feel while trying it?
Would I actually use this when mad? Why / why not?
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My Personal Cool-Down Blueprint
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NOTICE: When I feel my early warning clue of , I will mentally tell myself: "HIT PAUSE."
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SIGNAL OR SHIFT: Before I say or do something I regret, I will say or signal to my teacher/adult:
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EXECUTE MY TOOL: For the next 2 to 3 minutes, my #1 go-to coping strategy will be:
My Safe Harbor Support Team
1 adult I trust at school:
1 safe spot to reset:
My Power Phrase
"I am in control of my choices, even when I feel angry."
Student signature:
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