Cool Down Code Poster
Elementary SEL Coping Superpowers Be a Problem Solver!
THE COOL-DOWN CODE!
Secret Weapon Calm Power
STEP 1 Body Alarm!
Catch the Body Signals
Anger starts inside your body before words explode. Notice your clues:
Hot red cheeks & ears
Fast thumping heart
Tight, clenched fists
Twisted knot in tummy
Remember: Anger is normal, but YOU are in the driver's seat!
STEP 2 Cool Down Tools!
Hit the Calm-Down Brake
Freeze before you speak! Use a quick reset to bring calm thinking back:
TRACE & BREATHE UP = In • DOWN = Out
Starfish 5-Finger Breath
Trace your hand: breathe in going up, breathe out going down.
Cool Sip & Count 10
Take 3 sips of cold water or count 10 slow turtle steps.
Say: “I need 1 minute to cool down before I talk.”
STEP 3 Clear Words!
Use an "I-Message" Formula
Say what hurts without screaming, name-calling, or hurting back:
Yelling / Blaming:
“You're mean! You always ruin everything!”
Calm Super-Message:
“I feel upset when you grab my toy because I wasn't done. Please ask first.”
Use a strong, steady indoor voice. Calm words get heard!
STEP 4 Team Fix!
Solve It with a Fair Win-Win!
Figure out what went wrong and make a fair deal both people like:
1
What is the REAL Problem?
“We both want the basketball” (Stick to facts!)
2
Brainstorm 2 Fair Ideas
Take turns • Play together • Flip a coin • Trade
3
Agree & Shake On It
If stuck, ask an adult helper to be a peaceful referee!
A fair deal leaves both people feeling respected and happy!
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My Golden Anger Superpower:
“It is okay to feel angry, but it is NEVER okay to be mean or hurt people!”
1. Catch it → 2. Cool it → 3. Say it → 4. Solve it!
Anger Reset Worksheet
MY ANGER SUPER-RADAR & COPING LAB
Name:
Date:
Grade:
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Part 1: Body Clues & Talking Words
Tame the Volcano: Catch it, Cool it, Speak it!
Superpower:
Calm Control!
1 Color Your Body Volcano Clues!
Color or circle the clues your body gives you:
🔥 Hot cheeks / red ears 💓 Heart beating super fast ✊ Tight rock-fists 🌀 Butterflies in tummy 😬 Clenched teeth / jaw 💥 Urge to shout or stomp
My #1 earliest body clue:
2 My Cool-Down Tool Chest
Check the one you will try first today:
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5-Finger Starfish
Trace up each finger to breathe in, trace down to breathe out.
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Turtle Shell Pause
Tuck your chin, close eyes, and count 5 slow turtle breaths.
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Iceberg Drink
Take 3 cool sips of water. Feel the cool water calm your tummy.
My go-to calm-down tool:
3 Speech Bubble Magic: Turn Roars into Words!
Say It With Power
❌ The Angry Scream (Causes more trouble):
“Give me that, you thief! I hate you!”
⭐ The Calm I-Message (Gets respect):
“I feel upset when you grab my marker because I was using it. Please ask first.”
Now Practice! Someone cuts in front of you in the lunch line. Complete your calm I-Message:
I feel:
When you:
Because:
Please:
Controlled anger makes you strong! Turn the page for the Problem-Solving Puzzle →
SOLVING THE PROBLEM: FAIR NEXT STEPS
Name:
Page 2 of 2
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Part 2: The Peace Detective
Solve the Problem: Put the Puzzle Pieces Together!
Goal:
Win-Win Deal!
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Recess Case Study:
You were waiting in line for the playground basketball hoop. When it was finally your turn, another student rushed in front, grabbed the ball, and laughed, saying: “My ball now!”
1 Puzzle Piece 1: What is the REAL Problem?
Just the true facts, no name-calling!
2 Puzzle Piece 2: What Can YOU Control?
IN My Control (My choices):
OUT of My Control (Cannot force):
3 Puzzle Piece 3: What is a FAIR Next Step (Win-Win)?
Fair solution so both get to play!
PEACE
My Calm Champion Pledge:
When anger flares up, the first thing I will do is:
The calm words I will use to speak up are:
My Signature:
Date:
Part 2 • Fair Problem Solving & Win-Win Outcomes “Strong kids solve problems with calm words!”
