Intensity Meter Slides Week 1 | Identifying & Scaling Emotions
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The Intensity Meter
Learn to decode your brain's signals, map your emotions from 1 to 5, and spot triggers before they take control.
Name your feelings, master your reactions.
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The Scale
The 1–5 Thermometer
Measuring Inside Intensity
1
Cool & Calm
Body is relaxed. Mind is clear and focused. Ready to learn and connect with others.
I'm Good to Go
2
Tense / Bored
Slight restlessness. Easily distracted. Feeling slightly annoyed or low energy.
Self-Check Time
3
Frustrated
Fidgety, frowning, or quiet. Slower to respond. Feel emotional pressure starting to rise.
Pause & Breathe
4
Angry / Clenched
Fast breathing. Jaw clenched. Hard to think clearly. Ready to yell, slam, or walk away.
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5
Out of Control
Full-force explosion. Screaming, fighting, or shutting down completely. Safety risk.
Safety First
Where are you sitting on the thermometer right now?
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Physical Awareness
Spotting Your Body Clues
Mind-Body Connection
Before your brain even registers that you are angry or anxious, your body knows . Your body leaves clues to help you identify your level on the thermometer.
Why Body Clues Matter
If you catch a body clue early (at Level 2 or 3), you can use a coping tool to stay calm. If you wait until Level 4, it is much harder to stop.
Heart Rate
Pounding or racing inside your chest.
Breathing
Shallow, fast, or holding your breath.
Muscle Tension
Clenched fists, tight shoulders, or locked jaw.
Temperature
Hot cheeks, sweating, or cold hands.
Which body clue do you notice first when you get frustrated?
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Emotional Sparks
Understanding Triggers
Spark to Flame
What is a Trigger?
A trigger is an event, comment, or situation that instantly bumps you up the intensity thermometer.
Triggers are different for everyone. What sparks you might not spark a classmate.
Academic Triggers
Being asked to read aloud in front of peers
Struggling with a difficult math problem
Losing focus during an independent task
Receiving corrections on an assignment
Social Triggers
Losing a game during recess or gym
Being interrupted by a peer
Working in a noisy or chaotic group
Feeling ignored or left out of an activity
Knowing your triggers is the superpower that stops emotional explosions.
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Next Steps
Your Academy Mission
Mission Brief
Trigger Mapping Activity
Now we will map out your personal triggers on your student tracker. You will identify three personal triggers and figure out exactly what Level they put you on.
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Select 3 Triggers
2
Locate Body Clues
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Scale Your Response
Ready to master your meter? Let's write!
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Trigger Mapping Worksheet Week 1 Activity | Calm Control Academy
Trigger Mapping Worksheet
Identify your personal sparks and map out your emotional intensity levels.
Calm Control
Student Name:
Date:
Intensity Meter Quick Reference
Level 1 Cool & Calm
Level 2 Tense / Bored
Level 3 Frustrated
Level 4 Angry / Tense
Level 5 Out of Control
My Top 3 Personal Triggers
#1
The Trigger (What situation pushes your buttons?)
Body Clues (What does your body do?)
Intensity
Lvl:
#2
The Trigger (What situation pushes your buttons?)
Body Clues (What does your body do?)
Intensity
Lvl:
#3
The Trigger (What situation pushes your buttons?)
Body Clues (What does your body do?)
Intensity
Lvl:
Trigger Mapping Reflection
How can noticing your physical body clues (like heart racing or tense hands) help you use a coping tool before your feelings reach a Level 4 or 5?
Calm Control Academy — Week 1 Activity
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Toolbox Intro Slides Week 2 | Independent Coping Tools
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Build Your Calm Down Toolbox
Discover custom coping strategies to bring your intensity scale back to Level 1, completely on your own.
The best time to use a coping tool is before the explosion.
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Tool Categories
The Three Coping Trays
Inside the Toolbox
1. Physical Tools
Release physical stress buildup. Great for burning off restless or hot energy when your body is clenched.
Body Focus
2. Sensory Tools
Calm your nervous system using sight, touch, or sound. Helps reset focus and reduce overwhelming noise.
Environment Focus
3. Mind Tools
Change your internal thoughts. Helpful for quiet frustration, worry, confusion, or test anxiety.
Mind Focus
Which tray do you think you'll need to open most often?
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Actionable Options
Physical & Sensory Tools
Action Strategies
The 4-7-8 Breath
Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 7 seconds, exhale slowly for 8 seconds. This instantly forces your heart rate to slow down.
Desk Squeezes
Hold the bottom of your chair seat and squeeze tight for 5 seconds, then completely release. It gets the "tension" out of muscles.
Focus Reset (5-4-3-2-1)
Silently look around and find 5 colors, 4 textures, 3 objects, 2 sounds, and 1 positive self-word in your room.
Wall Pushes
Push flat against an empty wall as hard as you can for 10 seconds. Releases extra fight-or-flight energy instantly.
Physical tools can be used silently right at your desk without drawing attention.
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Internal Shifts
Cognitive & Mind Tools
Cognitive Strategies
What We Tell Ourselves
When we are frustrated (Level 3 or 4), our brains automatically start saying unhelpful thoughts like:
"This is too hard. I'm stupid. I can't do this. No one likes me."
Mind tools help us swap these thoughts for helpful self-talk .
Power Thoughts to Try:
"This is hard right now, but I can work through it."
"I don't have to be perfect. I just need to try."
"I am in control of my reactions right now."
"I can ask for a 2-minute break and try again."
Coping thoughts change how your body feels almost instantly.
Calm Down Choice Cards Week 2 Resource | Calm Control Academy
Calm Down Choice Cards
Cut out these desk-friendly cards. Select and use one strategy when you hit Level 2 or 3.
Toolbox
1. Box Breathing
Trace a square in your mind. Inhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, hold for 4 seconds. Repeat 3 times.
Physical Strategy
2. Desk Squeezes
Hold the bottom of your seat. Pull up and squeeze your muscles tight for 5 seconds. Exhale and release completely. Feel the tension fade.
Physical Strategy
3. Wall Pushes
Press flat hands against the wall. Push as hard as you can for 10 seconds. Focus on the push, then let go and shake out your hands.
Physical Strategy
4. Focus 5-4-3-2-1
Look around. Find: 5 blue things, 4 rectangular things, 3 textures (like desk/jeans), 2 letters on posters, and 1 quiet sound.
Sensory Strategy
5. Power Thoughts
Say silently to yourself: "This is hard right now, but I can work through it. I am in control of my reactions."
Mind Strategy
6. Two-Minute Break
Put your head down on your desk or look out the window. Put all thoughts away. Do nothing but watch the clock for exactly 2 minutes.
Mind Strategy
Calm Control Academy — Week 2 Resource
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Express Yourself Slides Week 3 | Social Communication & Expression
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Speak Your Mind
Master the art of 'I-statements' to express your thoughts, feelings, and needs clearly without causing a classroom scene.
Your voice is a tool. Learn how to use it assertively.
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Communication Styles
Passive, Aggressive, or Assertive?
Choosing Your Tone
Passive Style
Keeping feelings hidden inside. Not speaking up when you need help, letting others ignore your boundaries, and slowly building internal frustration.
"I say nothing."
Aggressive Style
Blaming others, yelling, slamming doors, or demanding help. Pushes people away and instantly raises the emotional thermometer in the classroom.
"I attack."
Assertive Style
Stating your needs and feelings calmly and directly. Using respect, choosing clean words, and telling others exactly how to resolve the problem.
"I express clearly."
Assertive communication is the gold standard of high-trust relationships.
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The Formula
The 3-Part I-Statement blueprint
Self-Advocacy Blueprint
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I feel [specific emotion]
2
when you [specific action/event]
3
I need [constructive solution/request]
Why Use This Formula?
It shifts the focus onto your feelings instead of launching an attack or blame game.
It gives the listener exact actions , making it easy to fix the problem without arguing.
It keeps you in control, preventing your thermometer from rising to Level 4 or 5.
Practice saying it out loud: I feel, when you, I need...
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Examples
Making the Swap
Reactivity Swap
Scenario 1: Peer Interruption
Aggressive Reaction:
"Shut up! You always talk over me, you're so annoying!"
Assertive I-Statement:
"I feel frustrated when you talk over my ideas. I need you to wait until I finish speaking."
Scenario 2: Help Needed
Passive / Slamming Reaction:
*Slams paper down* "This worksheet is stupid, I hate this!"
Assertive I-Statement:
"I feel stuck when I do these math formulas alone. I need a teacher to explain the first step."
I Statement Practice Page Week 3 Activity | Calm Control Academy
I-Statement Practice Page
Practice speaking up for yourself using assertive formulas that work.
Speak Up
Student Name:
Date:
The 3-Part Assertive blueprint
Part 1: The Emotion "I feel [feeling word]..."
Part 2: The Event "...when you [specific action]..."
Part 3: The Need "...I need [solution / request]."
Translate the Reactivity
Scenario 1: Peer Grabs Your Marker Reaction: "Give it back, you thief!"
Rewrite this using the 3-part assertive blueprint:
I feel
when you
I need
Scenario 2: Teacher Assigns Hard Math Worksheet Reaction: *Slamming head down on desk, sighing loudly*
Rewrite this using the 3-part assertive blueprint:
I feel
when you
I need
My Personal I-Statement Maker
Think of a real-life situation at school that frequently makes you frustrated. Map out how you will handle it with an assertive I-statement next time.
The Situation:
My Target Emotion:
I feel
when you
I need
Calm Control Academy — Week 3 Activity
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Restorative Conversation Guide Week 4 Teacher Guide | Calm Control Academy
Restorative Conversation Guide
A structured script and framework for processing classroom incidents and building accountability.
Teacher Tool
The Restorative Purpose
Restorative practices move the focus from simple punishment to repairing harm and relationships . By guiding students through self-reflection, we lower their defensiveness and teach them how to take active accountability for their actions.
The RESTORE Dialogue Framework
Phase 1: Regulate First (Thermometer check)
Do NOT attempt this dialogue if the student is still at Level 3, 4, or 5. Allow tools/time to bring them to Level 1 or 2.
What to say: "I see you're ready to talk now. Thank you for using your breathing/breaks to get back to Level 1."
Phase 2: Establish Facts (Objectively)
Focus on the action, not the identity of the student. Keep tone completely neutral and calm.
What to say: "Tell me what happened from your perspective. What thoughts were you having right before you did that?"
Phase 3: Impact and Empathy
Help the student identify who was impacted and what harm was caused in the classroom.
What to say: "Who was affected by what happened? How do you think [Peer/Teacher] felt when that occurred?"
Phase 4: Relationship Repair Plan
Allow the student to lead with solutions. Repair must be concrete and actionable, not just saying 'sorry'.
What to say: "What needs to happen to make things right with [Peer/Teacher]? What can we do next time this trigger pops up?"
Teacher Best Practices
If They Shut Down (Passive)
Do not force immediate speech. Offer the Restorative Reflection Sheet as a silent writing alternative. "I can see writing is easier than speaking right now. Let's start there."
Keep the Focus on Action
Separate the student's behavior from their character. Say "That choice was harmful" rather than "You are being disruptive/bad." Keep the door open for positive relationships.
Calm Control Academy — Week 4 Teacher Resource
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Restorative Reflection Sheet Week 4 Activity | Calm Control Academy
Restorative Reflection Sheet
Reflect on your choices, understand the impact, and build a plan to make it right.
Reflect & Repair
Student Name:
Date:
1. What Happened?
Describe the incident objectively. What triggered you, and what action did you take?
2. Who Was Affected and How?
Check all that apply and write briefly about the impact on them.
My Classmates
My Teacher
School Staff
Myself
How did this behavior impact the classroom community or their feelings?
3. How Will You Make It Right?
What concrete actions will you take to repair relationships or correct the problem?
Verbal Apology Restorative Note Reset Task Desk Clean Up
My action plan to restore trust in the classroom:
Calm Control Academy — Week 4 Activity
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