Peace Builders Worksheet
Grade 4 • Social-Emotional Learning
Peace Builders: Solving Peer Conflicts
Name:
Date: Room:
1 Cool Down
2 Use "I" Statements
3 Listen to Understand
4 Find a Win-Win
Scenario 1
Recess Disagreement: The Four-Square Rush
Playground
During recess, Maya and Leo both sprint to the only open four-square court. Maya yells, "I got here first, go to the end of the line!" Leo steps in front of her and yells back, "No way! You shoved past me by the stairs, so it's my turn!" Both students are breathing heavily, red-faced, and their fists are clenched.
1 Which action shows the most respectful first step (Cool Down) for Maya and Leo?
A Yell louder so the recess teacher knows who started it
B Step back, take three slow deep breaths, and unfreeze their fists
C Grab the ball and kick it across the field so no one plays
D Tell all their friends to refuse to play with the other person
2 Which choice is the best example of a respectful "I-Statement" Leo could use to express himself?
A "You are always cheating and cutting people off because you are selfish."
B "I feel upset when you rush in front of me because I thought I was next. Next time, let's talk before jumping in."
C "I feel like everyone hates playing four-square with you anyway."
Scenario 2
Classroom Project: The Poster Disagreement
Science Lab
Jordan and Sam are partners creating a poster on renewable energy. Sam spends ten quiet minutes carefully sketching bubble lettering for the title. While Sam is sharpening a pencil, Jordan grabs a thick black marker and writes large bold letters right across the top instead. When Sam returns, Sam gasps, pushes their chair back, and refuses to speak.
3 To practice Step 3 (Listen to Understand), what should Jordan realize about Sam's feelings?
A Sam is just dramatic and shouldn't care about a simple title
B Sam spent careful time planning and felt ignored and disrespected
C Sam wanted Jordan to do all the work on the poster alone
D Sam's bubble letters were ugly so Jordan did Sam a favor
Remember: In a conflict, listen to understand, not just to defend yourself! Continue to Page 2 ➔
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Finding Win-Win Solutions & Real-World Application
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4 Which action would be the best "Win-Win" compromise for Jordan and Sam on their poster?
A Tear up the poster and ask the teacher for separate grades
B Jordan apologizes; together they use Sam's design for headers and split tasks fairly
C Sam tells the whole class that Jordan ruined the whole project
D Jordan does all the coloring alone while Sam sits silently
Scenario 3
Art Room: The Broken Blending Pencil
Art Room
During art class, Marcus reaches across the table and takes Chloe's special blending pencil without asking. While pressing down hard, the pencil lead snaps. Marcus quickly sets it back down. When Chloe sees her broken pencil, she glares at Marcus and says, "You always ruin my things!"
5 What is the real problem at the core of this conflict?
A Chloe shouldn't care about a regular pencil
B Marcus took property without asking and broke trust by hiding it
C The art teacher should buy better pencils for everyone
D Nobody should ever talk or share supplies in art class
6 How can Marcus take honest responsibility and fix the relationship?
A Own the mistake: apologize sincerely, sharpen the pencil carefully, and ask before borrowing next time
B Say "It wasn't my fault, the pencil was already broken when I touched it"
C Tell Chloe she is overreacting and give the pencil to someone else
Challenge
Write Your Own Solution: The Lunch Table Seat
Cafeteria
Situation: At lunch, Mia and Taylor both want to sit in the single empty chair next to their mutual friend Riley. Both put their trays down on the same spot at the exact same moment.
A. Write one respectful "I-Statement" Mia could say to Taylor instead of arguing:
B. What is one fair "Win-Win" solution Mia and Taylor could agree on?
My Conflict Solver Pledge:
1. Calm breath 2. Honest "I" words 3. Listen first 4. Win-Win plan
