Peace Talk SlidesPEACE TALK Solving Conflicts with Kindness Healthy Friendships Essential Life Skills A Tool for Everyday Life Conflict is Normal. It happens with classmates, siblings, and everyone we work and play with. Person A Person B Solving conflicts Builds Trust. When we handle problems well, our relationships get stronger, not weaker. "Conflict is just a puzzle we solve together." Kindness = Being Honest Keeping it in... If you hide your feelings, they can turn into a "hidden grudge." That hurts the friendship over time! Kind Choice Speaking up... Telling others what bothers you calmly and honestly is the kindest way to fix things early. How do we speak up? "You" Statements "YOU always ruin everything! YOU are being mean!" Attack Tool "I" Statements "I feel frustrated when my work is drawn on." Kindness Tool Step 1: The Talker's Formula 1 I FEEL... (Name your feeling: sad, annoyed, frustrated) 2 WHEN YOU... (Describe the action that bothered you) 3 PLEASE... (Ask for the kind change you want to see) Step 2: The Listener's Power When someone shares their feelings, ECHO them back: The Echo Tool "I hear you feel _______ when I _______. I will _______." Listening = Respect Whole Group Practice The Scenario: "A classmate borrows your pencil and breaks it." The Talker "I feel annoyed..." "when you break my pencil..." "please be more careful with my tools." The Listener "I hear you feel annoyed..." "when I broke your pencil." "I will sharpen it for you or give you one of mine." Time to Practice! Use your Conflict Scenario skills in small groups. Remember: Good communication is a Superpower for life! Be Honest Be a Listener Work Together
Conflict Scenario ActivityConflict Scenario Activity Lead the way to Peace Page 1 of 2 How to Play Read each "Angry Outburst" below. Use the Talker Formula (I feel, when you, please) to rewrite it. Then, practice the Echo Tool to respond as a kind listener! The Outburst #1 "Hey! You cut in line! Go to the back!" Goal: Ask for line order to be respected. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #2 "You're annoying! Stop making that tapping noise!" Goal: Ask for quiet so you can focus. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #3 "You never let me play! You're being mean!" Goal: Express a desire to be included. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will Conflict Scenario Activity Lead the way to Peace Page 2 of 2 The Outburst #4 "You lost my marker! You're irresponsible!" Goal: Share disappointment and ask for a fix. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #5 "Stop laughing! Everyone makes a mistake!" Goal: Express hurt feelings and ask for respect. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #6 "Be quiet! You keep talking over me!" Goal: Ask for a turn to share your ideas. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel
Peace Pilot Teacher GuidePeace Pilot Guide Facilitator's Map for a 20-Minute Conflict Lesson Phase 1 5 MIN The Lesson Phase 2 10 MIN The Practice Phase 3 5 MIN The Huddle Instructional Keys Normalizing Conflict: It's a daily part of life. Even best friends disagree! Kindness is Honesty: Sharing feelings respectfully is kinder than bottling them up. The "Please" Step: Emphasize that we ask for exactly what we need to solve the problem. Scenario Keys (1-6) #1 (Line Cutting): Talker: I feel frustrated when you cut in front of me. Please go to the back of the line. Echo: I hear you feel frustrated. I will go to the back. #5 (Mistakes): Talker: I feel embarrassed when you laugh at my mistake. Please be respectful while I share. Echo: I hear you feel embarrassed. I will stop laughing and listen. Expansion Pack Key (7-12) #8 (Staring): Talker: I feel annoyed when you stare at me. Please focus on your own work. Echo: I hear you feel annoyed. I will stop staring and do my work. #9 (Swing): Talker: I feel disappointed when you take the swing I was waiting for. Please give me a turn in 5 minutes. Echo: I hear you feel disappointed. I will hop off in 5 minutes.
Peace Talker Reference CardsTeacher: Cut along the dotted lines to give each student a "Peace Talker" card for their desk or pocket! Talker Tool I feel... when you... please... Listener Echo "I hear you feel _______ when I _______. I will _______." Talker Tool I feel... when you... please... Listener Echo "I hear you feel _______ when I _______. I will _______." Talker Tool I feel... when you... please... Listener Echo "I hear you feel _______ when I _______. I will _______." Talker Tool I feel... when you... please... Listener Echo "I hear you feel _______ when I _______. I will _______."
Conflict Scenario Junior ActivityJunior Peace Talk Solving Problems with Kindness (Grades 1-2) Name: __________________________ Date: ____________ 1 How do you feel? Circle one: 😢 Sad 😤 Mad 😟 Left Out 😣 Annoyed 2 Try it out! Problem #1 "Someone takes your toy while you are playing." THE TALKER I feel when you . Please . THE LISTENER I hear you feel when I . I will . Problem #2 "A friend won't let you join their game." THE TALKER I feel when you . Please . THE LISTENER I hear you feel when I . I will . Kind words are like magic!
Peace Talk Junior SlidesPEACE TALK Junior Edition "Solving problems with kind hearts!" It's Like a Puzzle! Conflict is just when we have different ideas. We can solve the puzzle together with kind words! Kindness = Using the Heart "YOU" Talk "You are mean!" Feels like a poke! "I" Talk "I feel sad..." Feels like a hug! Step 1: Name Your Feeling 😢 Sad 😤 Mad 😟 Left Out 😣 Annoyed "I feel _______..." Step 2 & 3 "I feel sad..." "when you take my toy." "please ask me first." Now you have a "Peace Plan"! The Good Listener Show them you heard them! "I hear you. I will _______." Kind Friends Fix it! Let's Try It! In your small groups, practice using your Junior Peace Plan! BE KIND BE HONEST BE A HELPER
Peace Talk Junior PosterPeace Talker The Peace Talk Plan Solving Problems with Kindness The Talker Tool "I feel __________" "when you __________." "please __________." The Listener Tool "I hear you feel __________" "when I __________." "I will __________." 😢 Sad 😤 Mad 😟 Left Out 😣 Annoyed 😟 Scared Kind hearts solve problems!
Peace Talk Mastery PosterPeace Talk Mastery The Talker Tool 01 I FEEL __________ 02 WHEN YOU __________ 03 PLEASE __________ The Echo Tool "I hear you feel __________ when I __________. I will __________." Kindness = Respect Honesty = Strength
Scenario Expansion Pack ActivityScenario Expansion Pack More Practice for Conflict Mastery Page 1 of 2 The Outburst #7 "Why am I doing all the work? You're just sitting there while I clean up!" Goal: Ask for help cleaning up a shared space. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #8 "Stop staring at me! You're so annoying!" Goal: Ask for personal space and focus. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #9 "I was going to use that swing! You're such a hog!" Goal: Communicate about taking turns on the playground. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will Scenario Expansion Pack More Practice for Conflict Mastery Page 2 of 2 The Outburst #10 "I can't believe you told my secret! You're a backstabber and I'm not your friend!" Goal: Express hurt about broken trust. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #11 "We only lost because of you! You're a terrible player!" Goal: Address being blamed and emphasize teamwork. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #12 "You ripped my book! You're so careless, I'm never letting you touch my stuff again!" Goal: Share disappointment about the damage and ask for a fix. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener):
Expansion Pack 2 ActivityExpansion Pack #2 Advanced Practice (Scenarios 13-18) Page 1 of 2 The Outburst #13 "Watch where you're going! You just shoved me for no reason!" Goal: Address a physical bump in the hallway calmly. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #14 "Why did you change my slide? You think my work is bad? Fix it back!" Goal: Communicate about boundaries in group work. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #15 "I know you're talking about me! Stop whispering and looking at me!" Goal: Express discomfort about whispering/exclusion. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will Expansion Pack #2 Advanced Practice (Scenarios 13-18) Page 2 of 2 The Outburst #16 "You said you'd sit with me! You're a liar and I'm not eating with you anymore!" Goal: Express hurt about a broken lunch plan. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #17 "Can you just SHUT UP? I'm trying to take a test and your humming is driving me crazy!" Goal: Ask for quiet during a concentration task. Talker Tool: I feel when you please Echo Tool (Listener): I hear you feel when I I will The Outburst #18 "I'm not playing anymore! You guys never pick me because you think I'm bad!" Goal: Express feelings of being left out during recess. Talker Tool: I feel when you please
Peace Pilot Advanced GuidePeace Pilot Guide Facilitator's Map for a 20-Minute Conflict Lesson Phase 1 5 MIN The Lesson Phase 2 10 MIN The Practice Phase 3 5 MIN The Huddle Expansion Answer Key #2 (Scenarios 13-18) #13 (Hallway Bump): Talker: I feel startled when I am bumped in the hallway. Please watch where you are walking. Echo: I hear you feel startled. I will pay more attention to people in the hall. #14 (Project Change): Talker: I feel frustrated when my slides are changed without asking. Please talk to me before editing my work. Echo: I hear you feel frustrated. I'm sorry I changed it. I will ask you first next time. #17 (Humming): Talker: I feel distracted when there is humming during a test. Please stay quiet so I can concentrate. Echo: I hear you feel distracted. I didn't realize I was humming. I will be quiet now. Mastery Reflection Ask: "How does the 'Please' step turn a complaint into a solution?" Desired Answer: "It focuses on what we want to happen next instead of just what went wrong."
Inclusion and Kindness Intro SlidesClassroom Heart Inclusion & Kindness Everyone In Heart Choice Inclusion means... "Building a class where every single person has a spot in the circle and a turn to speak." Inviting Listening Sharing Kindness is a Choice It's Action! Kindness isn't just a feeling. It's something you do with your words and hands every day. It's Respect! Kindness means treating others' feelings and work with the same care you want for your own. The "Bump" "Even when we are inclusive and kind, we sometimes disagree." Conflict is just the bump in the road when two people have different ideas. Conflict is Normal! The question is: How do we solve it with KINDNESS? Let's be Peace Pilots We use our Inclusion Hearts to invite everyone, and our Peace Talk Tools to handle the bumps. Next Stop: Peace Talk Tools
Junior Inclusion Intro SlidesOur Kind Class Inclusion Means Everyone! We all belong here Inclusion is like a Puzzle! Every person is a Special Piece. If one is missing, the puzzle isn't finished! Inclusion is... Asking someone to play, sharing toys, and being a good listener. It means... Making sure Nobody feels left out! Kindness is a Choice ✋ Kind Hands To help and share 🗣️ Kind Words To be nice and honest The "Ouch" Moment "Even kind friends sometimes have a Problem." Someone takes a toy, or someone cuts in line. It feels like a Bump in the road! How can we fix it? Let's solve it together! We use our Kind Words to handle the bumps. It's time for a Peace Talk! Ready? Let's Go!
