Skill Explorer Orientation Slides Skill Explorer Orientation
Let's start our journey to becoming the boss of our own brains!
Why learn Life Skills?
The Brain's Toolkit
Just like we learn to read and do math, we have to learn how to handle feelings and decisions.
The Boss of You
These skills help YOU decide how to act, even when you have a BIG feeling.
You are the Boss!
Our Mission Areas
Emotions
Learning what our feelings are telling us.
Attention
Training our focus like a laser beam.
Decisions
Pausing before we act or react.
Getting Along
Building strong, happy friendships.
Think about this...
"You worked REALLY hard on a drawing, but then someone accidentally drips water on it. You feel like your heart is racing and you want to tear up their paper too!"
Is that your Emotion Mind talking?
In this class, we'll learn what to do next!
Explorer Chat
"What is one thing you find REALLY hard to do at school?"
"How do you feel when you make a good choice all by yourself?"
Class Rules
Listen
Close
Eyes on the speaker.
Support
Each Other
No yucking someone's yum!
1 Person
Speaks
Waiting our turn.
Try Your
Best
Keep on growing!
Mission Complete!
Today we became Skill Explorers. Next time, we'll learn a thinking superpower!
Super Skills Book Pairings Guide Super Skills: Book Pairings
Enhance your DBT lessons with stories and guided discussions.
Lesson 1: Orientation
Option 1:
"I Can Do Hard Things"
by Gabi Garcia
How can your brain be like a toolkit for hard things?
Option 2:
"The Girl Who Never Made Mistakes"
by Mark Pett
Why is it more fun to be a "Skill Explorer" than perfect?
Lesson 2: Both Sides Thinking
Option 1:
"Duck! Rabbit!"
by Amy K. Rosenthal
Who was "right"βthe duck person or the rabbit person?
Option 2:
"Seven Blind Mice"
by Ed Young
How did the mice use 'Both Sides Thinking' at the end?
Lesson 3: The Power of AND and YET
Option 1:
"The Magical Yet"
by Angela DiTerlizzi
What is your favorite "Yeti" thing right now?
Option 2:
"Giraffes Can't Dance"
by Giles Andreae
What was Gerald's 'Yet' moment in the story?
Lesson 4: How Emotions Work
Option 1:
"The Color Monster"
by Anna Llenas
What does a "mixed up" feeling feel like in your body?
Option 2:
"In My Heart"
by Jo Witek
Where in your body do you feel "bright" or "heavy"?
Lesson 5: Finding Wise Mind
Option 1:
"What Were You Thinking?"
by Bryan Smith
Was the character using their 'Hot' mind or 'Owl' mind?
Option 2:
"Waiting is Not Easy!"
by Mo Willems
How did Wise Mind help Gerald enjoy the end?
Lesson 6: The "What" Skills
Option 1:
"I Am Peace"
by Susan Verde
What did you Observe that was hidden in the art?
Option 2:
"The Listening Walk"
by Paul Showers
Can you Describe one sound you hear right now?
Lesson 7: Wise Mind Goes to SEA
Option 1:
"Angry Octopus"
by Lori Lite
Which SEA skill did the octopus use to calm down?
Option 2:
"My Many Colored Days"
by Dr. Seuss
On a 'Red' day, which skill helps you stay in control?
Lesson 8: CAP Your Emotions
Option 1:
"Breathe with Me"
by Mariam Gates
Which breath felt the best in your body?
Option 2:
"Alphabreaths"
by C. Willard
How does your body feel after a 'Paced Breath'?
Lesson 9: Check the Facts
Option 1:
"A Tale of Two Beasts"
by Fiona Roberton
What was a FACT vs. a THOUGHT for the beasts?
Option 2:
"The True Story of the 3 Pigs"
by Jon Scieszka
What facts would your 'Big Eye' see in this story?
Lesson 10: Opposite Action
Option 1:
"Grumpy Monkey"
by Suzanne Lang
What was the monkey's 'Action Urge' when grumpy?
Option 2:
"The Recess Queen"
by Alexis O'Neill
How did Katie Sue use 'Opposite Action' to help?
Lesson 11: Asking with DEAR
Option 1:
"My Mouth Is a Volcano"
by Julia Cook
How could he use a DEAR ask instead of erupting?
Option 2:
"Lilly's Purple Plastic Purse"
by Kevin Henkes
What was the REWARD when Lilly used her skills?
Lesson 12: Being Your Best Self (FACE)
Option 1:
"Chrysanthemum"
by Kevin Henkes
How did she stay her "Best Self" when others were mean?
Option 2:
"A Bad Case of Stripes"
by David Shannon
How did being honest (Character) cure her stripes?
Explorer Orientation Worksheets Explorer Badge
Mission 1: Getting Started
Name: ______________________
Date: ______________________
Welcome, Skill Explorer!
Draw yourself in your explorer gear in the badge below.
How do you feel today?
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My Goal for this journey:
"One thing I want to be better at is..."
Class Rules Comic
Mission 2: Team Rules
Name: ______________________
Draw yourself following our 4 Skill Explorer rules!
1. Listen Close
2. Support Each Other
3. 1 Person Speaks
at a time
4. Try Your Best Super Skills Visual Posters I am a
Skill Explorer!
Listen Close
Support
Each Other
1 Person
Speaks
Try Your Best
I am the Boss of my Brain!
Both Sides
Thinking
The Power of "AND"
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AND
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"Two things that seem opposite can BOTH be true!"
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Become a YETI
YET!
"I'm not good at this..."
...YET!
Practice Makes Progress
How Emotions Work
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Something Happens
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My Thoughts
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Inside Body (Urge)
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Outside Body (Action)
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Result (Reaction)
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The Infinity Loop
Break the Loop
with Your Skills!
Finding Wise Mind
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Emotion Mind
Too Hot!
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Reason Mind
Too Cool!
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WISE MIND
"Llistening to my Heart AND Brain!"
Mindfulness "What" Skills
Observe
"Wordless Watching"
Describe
"Labeling Facts"
Participate
"Going All In!"
Do only ONE at a time!
Wise Mind Goes to SEA
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Sensations
Touch, Smell, Taste
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Emotions
Sing, Laugh, Watch
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Activities
Draw, Read, Play
"Distract to stay in control!"
CAP Your Emotions
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Cold
Splash cold water!
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Active
Fast exercise!
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Paced
Breathe out slow!
The Body Chemistry Reset!
Check the Facts
Ask Your Big Eye:
"Is my brain telling me a FACT or a GUESS?"
"Not all thoughts are true!"
Opposite
Action
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Action Urge
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The Flip!
Flip the script!
Choose a new way to act!
Visual Super Skills Posters SKILL EXPLORER
LISTEN
SUPPORT
1 PERSON
BEST WORK
BOSS OF MY BRAIN!
BOTH SIDES THINKING
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YES
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YES
BOTH are true!
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STILL LEARNING
PRACTICE
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HOW EMOTIONS WORK
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INSIDE (BODY)
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BREAK THE LOOP!
WISE MIND
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COLD
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BEST CHOICE
MINDFULNESS
WATCH
LABEL
GO ALL IN
DO ONLY 1 AT A TIME!
GO TO SEA
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BODY
Ice, Stress Ball
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HEART
Music, Silly Faces
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Draw, Play, Read
TAKE A BREAK!
CAP IT!
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BREATHE
RESET BUTTON!
CHECK THE FACTS
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LOOK CLOSER!
FLIP IT!
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CHOICE
DO THE OPPOSITE!
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HEART
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WORDS
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FACE
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BE YOUR BEST SELF!
Visual Super Skills Posters Library EXPLORER
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Both Sides Thinking Slides Both Sides Thinking
The Power of "AND"!
Key Concept
Two things that seem opposite can both be TRUE at the same time.
"There is always more than one way to see a situation!"
The Coin Challenge
Heads!
"I see the face of the coin."
Tails!
"I see the bird on the coin."
Who is right?
THEY BOTH ARE!
Perspective!
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It's a 6!
It's a 9!
"How you look at it changes what you see!"
Can Both be True?
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"My parent is being strict AND my parent loves me."
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"This lesson is hard AND I can keep trying."
Your Turn!
"Can you think of a food that you like but your best friend thinks is 'yucky'?"
Who is right? Why?
Dialectic Power!
Everyone say it together:
DIALECTIC!
"I stay open to other sides!"
Both Sides Thinking Worksheets Coin Flip Fun
Both Sides Thinking
Name: ______________________
Date: ______________________
Part 1: The Coin
Draw the HEAD side and the TAIL side.
Remember, they are both part of the same coin!
Heads
Tails
Part 2: The Party
Can you think of two "sides" to a Birthday Party?
Draw one scary/hard side and one happy/fun side.
Happy Side
Hard Side
Magic Glasses
Seeing Both Sides
Name: ______________________
The "First Day of School"
"How can the exact same day feel two different ways?"
The Scary Side
(New people, loud lunch room)
The Happy Side
(New toys, playground fun)
"They are BOTH true at the same time!"
The Power of AND and YET Slides AND & YET Power
Words that grow your brain!
Watch out!
The word BUT is like a giant eraser.
It erases all the good things you said before it!
BUT
"I like school BUT I don't like math." (Math just erased the 'like school' part!)
The Upgrade
Replace your erasers with AND!
Eraser Thinking:
"I was brave BUT I was scared."
Power Thinking:
"I was brave AND I was scared."
"Both feelings can live in your heart!"
Stuck vs. Open
Stuck Words (Avoid!)
Always
Never
Nobody
Open Words (Use!)
Sometimes
Occasionally
One Way
Become a YETI
YET!
"I'm not good at this... YET!"
Practice Makes Progress
Brain Builder Chat
"What is one thing you are being a YETI about right now?"
"Can you say something you are good at AND something you are still learning?"
Growth Badge!
Use "AND"
To keep both sides true.
BE A YETI
Because you're still growing!
Go forth and practice your power words!
The Power of AND and YET Worksheets Yeti's Garden
Practice Makes Progress
Name: ______________________
Date: ______________________
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Yeti says: "I'm not good at this... YET!"
Step 1: The Seed
"Draw one thing you can't do very well right now."
Step 2: The Growth
"Draw yourself practicing that thing. How are you being a Yeti?"
YETI POWER!
The AND Bridge
Connecting Both Sides
Name: ______________________
"The word AND is a bridge that holds two opposite feelings together!"
Feeling A
"I'm scared to try..."
Feeling B
"I want to do it!"
AND
Skill Explorer Mission:
"Draw something that is really HARD for you on the left, AND draw yourself being brave enough to try it on the right!"
How Emotions Work Slides The 6 Steps of
Big Feelings
How Emotions Work!
Fast & Furious!
Emotions happen in
LESS than 1 minute!
"They feel long because we get stuck in the cycle. Let's learn how to break out!"
The Beginning
1
The Event
Something happens in the world around you.
"A toy breaks..."
2
Thoughts
Your brain tells you a story about what happened.
"This isn't fair!"
The Reaction
3
Inside
Physical sensations and urges to act.
Tight Chest Hot Face
4
Outside
What other people can see you doing.
Screaming Crying
The Result
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Result
What happens because of your outside action.
"A teacher helps or you get in trouble."
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The Loop
Your new thoughts and feelings start it ALL OVER AGAIN!
Feelings Lab
"Where in your body do you feel SADNESS? (Stomach, eyes, or throat?)"
"If we can change Step 2 (our thoughts), can we change the whole emotion?"
You are an
Emotion Expert!
By learning the 6 steps, you can start to see WHERE to use your super skills to stay in control!
Step by Step!
How Emotions Work Worksheets Feeling Body Map
Mission 4: Inside Your Body
Name: ______________________
"Where do you feel your emotions? Use different colors to show your sensations!"
ANGER (Hot/Tight)
FEAR (Shaky/Cold)
SADNESS (Heavy)
JOY (Bubbly)
The Emotion Story
Mission 4: The 6 Steps
Name: ______________________
Trace the steps of a big feeling. Pick a scenario:
"Losing a game" or "Dropping an ice cream".
1. Something Happened
2. My Thoughts
3. Inside Body (Feeling)
4. Outside Body (Action)
5. Result (Reaction)
6. The Loop (Next?)
Finding Wise Mind Slides Finding Wise Mind
Our Wisest Self!
The Big Secret
"Paying attention in a particular way, on purpose, in the present moment."
No autopilot! We are fully awake and noticing everything right NOW.
Our 3 Brain States
Emotion Mind
The HOT mind. Only feelings decide what we do.
Wise Mind
The Owl Mind. Finding the middle path!
Reasonable Mind
The COOL mind. Only facts and rules matter.
The Super Power
"We make our most effective decisions when we are in Wise Mind."
Feelings + Facts = Wisdom
Wise Mind Characters
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The Wise Owl
Sees the whole picture. Stays calm. Listens to his heart AND his brain.
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The Busy Mouse
Panics! Runs without thinking. Only listens to his fear or excitement.
Explorer Chat
"How can you tell if you are in HOT Emotion Mind? What does it feel like in your heart?"
"Can you remember a time when you were a WISE OWL today?"
Stay Wise!
Everyone has a Wise Mind inside them. We just have to PAUSE and look for it!
Owl Power Activated!
Wise Mind Worksheets Owl, Mouse, and Me
Mission 5: Finding Wise Mind
Name: ______________________
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Emotion Mind
Feeling BUSY like a Mouse!
"I feel..."
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Wise Mind
Calm like the Owl
"I know..."
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Reason Mind
Facts like a Robot!
"I think..."
Draw yourself in each circle!
Which mind are you using right now?
Wise Mind Balance
Mission 5: The Seesaw
Name: ______________________
"Wise Mind is finding the balance between your feelings and the facts!"
My Big Feelings
Emotion Mind
The Rules & Facts
Reason Mind
Wise Choice
The What Skills of Mindfulness Slides The Mindfulness
"What" Skills
Tools for Awareness!
Three Skills to Use
Observe
Wordless Watching
Describe
Labeling Facts
Participate
Going All In
Observe
"Watching WITHOUT words."
How to do it:
Just notice what is happening. Notice your stomach growling or a bird flying by. Don't label it yetβjust watch!
Describe
"Putting FACTS to what you saw."
NO INTERPRETATIONS!
Instead of: "She is mad," say: "She is frowning and has her hands on her hips."
PARTICIPATE
"Go All In!"
"Lose yourself in the activity! Don't worry about being perfect or how you look. Just BE THERE!"
Singing
Playing
Dancing
Mind Lab Chat
"If you are playing 'Freeze Dance', are you Observing or Participating?"
"Can you Describe what your shoes look like right now without saying if they are 'cool' or 'bad'?"
Awareness Unlocked!
"One Thing at a Time!"
Remember: You can only do ONE 'What' skill at a time. Pick your tool and use it skillfully!
The What Skills Worksheets Wordless Watching
Mission 6: The "Observe" Skill
Name: ______________________
Be an Eagle Explorer!
"Find a spot in the room and sit completely still. Use your eyes and ears to observe 3 things without using any words!"
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2
3
"Notice how it feels to just watch without saying a word!"
Fact Scientist
Mission 6: The "Describe" Skill
Name: ______________________
Lab Report
"Scientists only use FACTS. No guesses allowed!"
1. Pick an object & Draw it:
2. Describe it with 4 FACTS (Colors, Shapes, Size):
A
B
C
D
"Did you use any judge words? (Like 'pretty', 'bad', or 'weird'?) If so, erase them and use FACT words instead!"
Wise Mind Goes to SEA Slides Wise Mind Goes
to SEA
Don't Make It Worse!
The Red Zone
"I have a lot of strong emotions and acting on them right now will make things WORSE!"
When your brain is too "hot" to solve the problem, it's time for a strategic break.
THE MISSION:
DISTRACT
"We aren't fixing the problem yet. We are just stopping ourselves from making it BIGGER."
Ride out the urge!
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Sensations
"Change what your body feels right now."
Squeeze a stress ball
Hold a piece of ice
Hug a soft stuffy
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Emotions
"Change the feeling you have."
Sing a happy song
Make funny faces
Watch a silly video
A
Activities
"Change what you are doing right now."
Draw or color a picture
Go outside and play
Read your favorite book
SEA Skill Chat
"If you were stuck at school and in the Red Zone, which SEA skill could you do at your desk?"
"Why do we need to WAIT for Wise Mind before we try to fix the problem?"
Ride the Wave Worksheets My SEA Suitcase
Mission 7: Wise Mind Goes to SEA
Name: ______________________
"Pack your suitcase with skills to use when you're in the RED ZONE!"
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Sensations
Body Tricks
E
Emotions
Feeling Flip
A
Activities
Do Something!
"I use my SEA skills so I don't make the problem bigger!"
Ride the Wave
Mission 7: Distress Tolerance
Name: ______________________
"A big feeling is like a giant wave.
It goes UP, but it always comes BACK DOWN!"
The Peak (Red Zone)
Feeling Starts
Feeling Fades
My Surfboard Skill:
"Draw the skill that helps you stay on your board when the wave is high!"
CAP Your Emotions Slides CAP Your Emotions
The Body Reset Skill!
Overwhelmed!
"When your emotions are so HUGE that you can't even think straight!"
This is when we need to change our BODY CHEMISTRY to reset our brain!
Turn on the REST Button!
C
Cold
Slow down pulse
A
Active
Burn emotion energy
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Paced
Calm the nerves
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Cold Water
Splash
"Splash cold water on your face for 30 seconds while holding your breath."
This acts like a "Stop Sign" for big feelings!
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Active
Exercise
"Run in place or do jumping jacks as fast as you can for 1-2 minutes. Then STOP!"
This burns up all the "Fight or Flight" energy!
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Paced Breathing
The Secret Formula:
4 SEC
Breathe IN
6 SEC
Breathe OUT
Longer exhales = Calm Body!
Explorer Chat
"What is one feeling that makes your body feel like it's EXPLODING with energy?"
"If you were in class, which CAP skill would be the easiest to do without anyone noticing?"
CAP Hero Worksheets The CAP Reset
Mission 8: Body Reset Skills
Name: ______________________
"Use your CAP skills to push the REST BUTTON on your brain!"
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Cold Water
"Splash or hold cold! (30 seconds)"
A
Active Exercise
"Move FAST, then STOP! (1-2 mins)"
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Paced Breathing
"Slow breath out. (Longer than in)"
Body Chemistry Reset Activated!
CAP Hero
Mission 8: Real World Super Skills
Name: ______________________
"Every hero needs a plan. Draw a comic of you saving the day with a CAP skill!"
1. The BIG Feeling:
"Everything feels too much!"
2. Use Your CAP Skill:
"C, A, or P?"
3. Wise Mind Result:
"How do you feel after the Body Reset?"
Check the Facts Slides Check the Facts
The "Big Eye" Skill!
The Brain's Story
"Does your brain ever tell you a story that isn't true?"
YES!
We call this an INTERPRETATION. It's when we guess what someone is thinking or why they did something.
Fact vs. Guess
Fact (The Truth)
What a camera would see or record.
"My friend walked past me without saying hi."
Interpretation (The Guess)
What our emotion mind thinks happened.
"She is mad at me and doesn't want to be friends!"
Case Study
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"A ball hits a vase and it breaks. I think: 'I'm in BIG trouble! My parents will be so mad!'"
Use the Big Eye:
Fact: The vase is broken.
Question: Do I KNOW they will be mad? Was it an accident? Maybe they didn't even like that vase?
Skill Steps
1
Identify: What emotion am I feeling? (Label it!)
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Describe: What exactly happened? (Camera view!)
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Examine: Does my emotion fit the REAL facts?
Look Closer!
"Are there other explanations? Check for the BEST POSSIBLE reason!"
Explorer Chat
"You worked hard on a drawing and the teacher says 'Let's try again'. What is the FACT? What is the GUESS?"
"How does being a 'Fact Checker' help you stay in WISE MIND?"
Mission Complete!
"Not all thoughts are true!"
Remember: When you feel a BIG emotion, use your Big Eye to see if you have all the facts first!
Check the Facts Worksheets Magnifying Glass Mystery
Mission 9: Check the Facts
Name: ______________________
Fact vs. Interpretation
"Use your BIG EYE to separate what really happened from what your brain guessed!"
Scenario: "Your teacher calls your name."
The Fact (Camera View)
"She said my name out loud."
The Guess (Brain Story)
"I'm in trouble!"
Scenario: "A friend walks by without saying hi."
The Fact (Camera View)
The Guess (Brain Story)
True Story News
Mission 9: Factual Reporting
Name: ______________________
Breaking News!
"Reporting just the facts!
NO interpretations allowed on this channel!"
1. The "Fake News" Guess:
"My friend laughed at me. They must think I'm a loser."
2. The True Story (FACTS):
"What actually happened? Draw the scene like a news reporter!"
Reporter Quote: "I saw my friend laughing. I don't know why."
Opposite Action Superpower Slides OPPOSITE ACTION
The Choice Superpower!
The Body Urge
Every emotion has an ACTION URGEβit's what your body wants to do RIGHT NOW!
Anger
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Yell / Hit
Sadness
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Hide / Cry
Fear
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Run / Escape
Do we have to follow the urge?
NO!
"If your emotion doesn't fit the facts, you can do THE OPPOSITE of what the urge wants!"
Scenario: Sadness
"You weren't invited to a party. You feel sad and want to stay in your room alone."
Opposite Action:
Go play with other friends at the playground!
(This makes the sadness go down!)
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Scenario: Anger
"A friend takes your ball without asking. You feel angry and want to yell and push them!"
Opposite Action:
Take 3 deep breaths and speak gently. Or walk away calmly for a minute.
The Superpower Menu
If you feel ANGRY...
Don't yell! Instead, speak GENTLY or walk away calmly.
If you feel SCARED...
Don't run away! Instead, GO NEAR what scares you slowly.
If you feel BORED...
Don't mope! Instead, GET ACTIVE and do something fun!
If you feel SHAME...
Don't hide your face! Instead, STAND TALL with your eyes up.
Explorer Chat
"Why do we need to CHECK THE FACTS before we use Opposite Action?"
"Can you think of a time when your 'Urge' would have got you into trouble?"
Mission Complete!
Doing the opposite of your urge sends your brain a NEW message. It helps the big emotion go down!
Super Skill Unlocked!
Opposite Action Worksheets The Great Flip
Mission 10: Opposite Action
Name: ______________________
"When your emotion doesn't fit the facts... FLIP the urge!"
Action Urge
What I feel like doing:
"I want to yell or hide..."
Opposite Action
What I choose to do:
"I'll be gentle or approach!"
The Choice is MINE!
Superpower Menu
Mission 10: The Flip-It Guide
Name: ______________________
"Draw a line to match the BIG feeling to its Superpower Opposite!"
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Angry
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Scared
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Sad
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Ashamed
Approach / Go Near
Be Gentle / Kind
Get Active / Play
Eyes Up / Stand Tall
Challenge Round!
"If you feel BORED and want to do nothing,
what is the Opposite Action?"
Move your body!
Asking with DEAR Skills Slides Asking with
DEAR Skills
Get What You Need!
Clear Communication
"Being a Skill Explorer means asking effectively so people understand you."
"Using the DEAR steps makes it MUCH more likely that you'll hear the word... YES!"
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Describe
Just the facts!
"I can see that you all are playing basketball right now."
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Express
Use "I" Statements!
"I think it would be REALLY fun to play with all of you."
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Ask
Be Direct!
"Can I please join your basketball game?"
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Reward
What's in it for them?
"If you let me play, we'll have enough people to start a real game!"
Effective Chat
"What happens if we forget the ASK and just stand there smiling?"
"Why is the REWARD step the secret to getting a 'Yes'?"
Step Out Your Ask!
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A
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"I am a clear and confident communicator!"
DEAR Footprints Worksheets DEAR Footprints
Mission 11: Asking Effectively
Name: ______________________
"Step out your ask to make it more likely you'll hear YES!"
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Describe (Facts)
"I see you're playing..."
E
Express (Feelings)
"I think it would be fun to..."
A
Ask (Be Direct)
"Can I please..."
R
Reward (Why it's good for them)
"If you let me, then we can..."
Reward Ribbon
Mission 11: The Power of the "R"
Name: ______________________
"The REWARD is telling the other person why saying 'YES' is a win for them too!"
My Win-Win Idea
"Draw a picture of you and a friend both being happy after they say yes to your request!"
"If you say yes, it will be fun for BOTH of us!"
"Thinking about what the other person wants makes your request MUCH stronger!"
Being Your Best Self with FACE Slides The FACE Skills
Being Your Best Self!
The Best-Self Goal
"How do you want to FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF after a conversation is over?"
FACE skills help you stick up for yourself so you can stay confident and proud!
F
Be Fair
"Be fair to yourself AND fair to the other person."
If someone asks to copy your homework, saying NO is being fair to your hard work!
A
no
Apologies
"Don't say 'sorry' over and over for things that aren't your fault."
You don't need to apologize for having a different opinion or just being YOU!
C
Character
First
What kind of person are you?
Honest
Trustworthy
Kind
"Acting with good character makes you feel PROUD inside!"
E
Explain
Truth = Trust
"Tell the other person your side of the story while telling the TRUTH."
Honesty builds a stronger bridge to others!
Self-Respect Chat
"What kind of person do you want to be when you grow up? (Helpful, brave, or funny?)"
"Why do we feel bad inside when we tell a lie to make someone feel better?"
Best Self
Activated!
Put your best FACE forward in every conversation. You are special and your self-respect matters MORE than any temporary goal!
Mission Accomplished!
Being Your Best Self Worksheets My FACE Shield
Mission 12: Self-Respect Effectiveness
Name: ______________________
"Decorate your shield with the things that make you proud of your CHARACTER!"
PROUD
FAIR
HONEST
BEST SELF
"I keep my self-respect shield strong!"
Best Self Snapshot
Mission 12: Maintaining Confidence
Name: ______________________
"Think of a time you stuck up for yourself or told the truth even when it was hard. Draw it below!"
I was FAIR
NO Apologies
CHARACTER first
EXPLAIN truth
"I feel GOOD about myself when I use my FACE skills!"