Bullying Basics Teacher Guide Week 1 Facilitator Guide
What Is Bullying? & Loud and Proud Voice
20-Minute Core Lesson UBNE Schoolwide SEL
Lesson Timestamp & Pacing Breakdown (20 Min Total)
0:00–3:00 (3m) Hook & UBNE Voice
3:00–8:00 (5m) 3 R's & Definition
8:00–14:00 (6m) Drills & Action Plan
14:00–20:00 (6m) Worksheet & Wrap
1 Segment 1: Hook & UBNE Voice Expectation 0:00–3:00 (3 Min)
Teacher Script: "Good morning UBNE scholars! At our school, we use our Loud and Proud voice at all times—when asking questions, answering, saying hello, introducing ourselves, and standing up to bullying. Today, we learn what bullying really is and how our voice protects us."
2 Segment 2: The 3 R's Diagnostic (Tiered by Grade Span) 3:00–8:00 (5 Min)
Grades K–1 Focus (Concrete & Simple):
"Bullying is when someone hurts you on purpose , does it again and again , and makes you feel small. An accident is an 'Oops!' Bullying needs a big 'STOP!'"
Grades 2–3 Focus (The 3 R's Test):
"Bullying must meet all 3 R's : Repeated (pattern over time), Real Hurt (intentional harm), and Relationship Power Imbalance (using size, numbers, or age to dominate)."
Grade 4 Focus (Relational & Power Dynamics):
"In 4th grade, bullying often looks like covert exclusion, whispering clubs, or online teasing. Power isn't just physical strength—it is social popularity and group numbers."
Core Principle: "A behavior is only bullying when all 3 R's are present." Page 1 of 2
20-Minute Protocol
Voice Practice & Grade-Specific Action
Pacing Guide
3 Segment 3: Loud & Proud Stance & Scholar Action Plan 8:00–14:00 (6 Min)
If You Are Targeted (3 Steps):
1. Feet planted, shoulders back, eye contact.
2. Loud & Proud: "STOP. I do not like that."
3. Walk to adult supervision & report immediately.
If You Witness It (3 Steps):
1. Do not laugh, record, or join in.
2. Distract or speak up: "Come with me."
3. Delegate to a teacher right away.
Grade Span Pacing Focus:
• K–1: Choral repeat posture moves: Feet! Shoulders! Eyes! Big Voice!
• 2–3: Shoulder-partner practice: Partner A gives boundary, Partner B provides feedback.
• Grade 4: Quick table discussion: "How does laughing when someone is teased make you an accomplice?"
4 Segment 4: Grade Worksheet Completion & Closing Oath 14:00–20:00 (6 Min)
K–1 Worksheet Draw stance & speech bubble; check 4 body moves.
2–3 Worksheet Complete 3 R's fill-in; analyze 2 scenarios; script boundary.
Grade 4 Worksheet Power dynamic evaluation; covert case study & action plan.
Closing Scholar Mantra (19:00–20:00): "We stand tall. We speak clear. We use our Loud and Proud voice every day!"
UBNE Elementary SEL Series • Week 1 Lesson Guide (20 Min Runtime)
Bullying Basics Slides Week 1 UBNE Courage & Care Crew
Grades K–4
What Is Bullying?
🦁 LOUD & PROUD VOICES = BRAVERY!
Understand the definition, master The 3 R's , and learn how to use your voice with courage!
🎯 Official Definition 🦁 Voice = Bravery 🛡️ What Scholars Should Do
Definition of Bullying
The 3 R's Criteria
Definition What Does "Bullying" Mean?
Bullying is aggressive, unwanted behavior done on purpose that is repeated over time and involves an imbalance of power.
1
Criterion 1
REPEATED
Happens again and again over time (not a one-time accident).
2
Criterion 2
REAL HURT
Done on purpose to cause physical or emotional pain.
3
Criterion 3
RELATION POWER (Power Inbalance)
One person uses size, age, or numbers to control another.
👶 For K–1: Mean on purpose + Again and again + Makes you feel small. ✨ All 3 must be present to be bullying!
Loud & Proud Voice = Bravery!
UBNE Expectation: Speaking up takes courage, and we use our voice at ALL times!
UBNE Standard
🙋
Answering
❓
Asking
☀️
Greetings
🤝
Introductions
🛑
Speaking Up
🚨
Reporting
🦶
1. Feet Planted
Shoulder-width, firmly rooted.
🦸
2. Shoulders Back
Tall posture, unslouched chest.
👀
3. Eye Contact
Calm, clear focus right in the eyes.
📢
4. Level 3 Voice
Firm, clear, confident tone.
"At UBNE, speaking with a Loud & Proud voice is an act of BRAVERY!"
Consequences of Bullying
Impact & Accountability
💔 😔
Impact on Target
• Feeling scared to come to school
• Stomachaches & anxiety
• Trouble focusing on learning
• Feeling alone and unwanted
Real Emotional Harm
🏫 ⚡
Impact on School
Loud Proud Voice Poster UBNE Schoolwide Expectation
LOUD AND PROUD VOICES!
Speaking with a Loud and Proud voice shows true courage and leadership across our entire school!
When Do We Use Our Loud & Proud Voice at UBNE?
🙋 Answering Questions
❓ Asking Questions
☀️ Saying Good Morning
🤝 Introducing Ourselves
🛑 Speaking Up to Bullying
🚨 Reporting Bullying
1
FEET PLANTED
Feet flat, shoulder-width apart. Rooted and solid like a tree!
2
SHOULDERS BACK
Spine tall, chin level, unslouched. Heart open and brave!
3
EYE CONTACT
Look calmly right into their eyes. Confident and direct.
4
LEVEL 3 VOICE
Clear, firm, and proud. Not shouting, not whispering.
Daily Loud & Proud Phrase Bank
👉 "Good morning, my name is _______!"
👉 "I have a question about the math steps."
👉 "STOP. I do not like that."
👉 "Teacher, I need to report an unsafe situation."
LOUD & PROUD VOICES = BRAVERY • SPEAK WITH COURAGE AT UBNE!
Loud Voice Primary Worksheet 🦁
Grades K–1 • Week 1
Loud & Proud Voice = Bravery!
My Name:
🦁 REMEMBER: Using your Loud and Proud voice shows BRAVERY !
✏️ 1. TRACE YOUR BRAVE WORD:
2 ⭕ Circle the 4 CORRECT Loud & Proud Moves (Cross out ❌ the wrong ones!):
🦶 Feet Planted Strong
🙈 Look at Shoes / Hide
🦸 Shoulders Tall
🤫 Quiet Whispering
👀 Looking Eye-to-Eye
📢 Clear Level 3 Voice
3 ❓ Question About Bullying: Which Picture Shows BULLYING? (Circle it!):
😢 🛑
Mean On Purpose Every Day Pushes & teases again & again
😬 🤝
An Accident ("Oops!") Bumps elbow & says "Sorry!"
4 🎨 Draw Yourself Standing Strong & Speaking with Bravery!
(Draw below)
Draw your smiling brave face and strong body... Draw your speech bubble...
"My Loud & Proud voice shows BRAVERY!"
UBNE Elementary SEL Series • Kindergarten & 1st Grade 🌟 Week 1
Three Rs Junior Worksheet Grades 2–3 • Week 1
The 3 R's & My Loud & Proud Voice
Name:
Date:
1 The 3 R's Criteria of Bullying
Fill in the missing word from the word bank: (Relation power, Repeated, Real Hurt)
1. R —
Happens again & again over time.
2. R —
Done on purpose to cause pain.
3. R —
Uses size, age, or numbers to control.
2 Scenario Detective
Case A: Every day at recess, Jason tells Leo he can't play soccer and makes fun of his sneakers.
Is this bullying?
Yes No
Which "R" shows this most?
Case B: Maya and Ella both want to be line leader on Tuesday. They argue for 1 minute, then take turns.
Is this bullying?
Yes No
Why is this NOT bullying? (Think 3 R's):
3 Write Your Loud & Proud Boundary Statement
✓ Feet planted ✓ Shoulders back ✓ Eye contact ✓ Clear Level 3 voice
4 🎨 How Does It Feel to Be Bullied? (Draw a picture to represent):
(Draw feelings/expression)
Draw a face or picture showing how someone feels inside (e.g. sad, lonely, hurt)...
"Bullying causes real hurt. That is why we use our Loud & Proud voice to stop it!"
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grades 2–3 🌟 Week 1
Power Dynamics Upper Worksheet Grade 4 • Week 1
The 3 R's & Loud and Proud Voice
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: Speaking with a Loud and Proud voice shows BRAVERY !
1 The 3 R's Criteria for Bullying (From Slide 2)
Explain what each of the 3 R's means based on what we learned in today's lesson:
1. REPEATED What does "repeated" mean?
2. REAL HURT How is it done on purpose?
3. RELATION POWER What is a power imbalance?
2 Case Study: Lunch Table Exclusion
"A group of four classmates starts a club during lunch. Whenever Taylor walks over to sit with them, they look at each other, giggle, and say 'Sorry Taylor, this table is full today.' This has happened every day for two weeks."
A. Why is this bullying? (Use the 3 R's to explain):
B. If you see this happen, what should you do instead of staying silent?
3 Loud & Proud Assertive Response
Write what you can say in your firm Level 3 voice if someone tries to exclude you or a peer:
✓ Feet Planted ✓ Shoulders Back ✓ Eye Contact ✓ Clear Level 3 Voice
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grade 4 🌟 Week 1
Conflict Triage Teacher Guide Week 2 Facilitator Guide
Bullying vs. Conflict vs. Mean Behavior
20-Minute Core Lesson UBNE Schoolwide SEL
Lesson Timestamp & Pacing Breakdown (20 Min Total)
0:00–3:00 (3m) Hook & 4 Clues
3:00–8:00 (5m) Decoder Matrix
8:00–14:00 (6m) Triage Drills
14:00–20:00 (6m) Worksheet & Wrap
1 Segment 1: Hook & The 4 Categories 0:00–3:00 (3 Min)
Teacher Script: "Scholars, not every hurtful moment is bullying. When we call everything bullying, we miss how to solve everyday disagreements. Today, we decode the difference between Rude, Mean, Conflict, and Bullying!"
2 Segment 2: Decoder Delivery (Tiered by Grade Span) 3:00–8:00 (5 Min)
Grades K–1 Focus ("Oops vs Ouch"):
"Oops is an accident (bumping crayons). Ouch is a grumpy word we apologize for. Bullying is mean on purpose again and again. For Oops/Ouch, we use our words. For Bullying, we get a teacher!"
Grades 2–3 Focus (Equal Power vs Bullying):
"Conflict happens between two equal friends who both want something (like sharing the basketball). We talk it out or take turns. Bullying is repeated harm with an unfair power imbalance."
Grade 4 Focus (4-Way Matrix & Relational De-Escalation):
"We evaluate 3 variables: Intent (unplanned vs purposeful), Frequency (one-time vs repeated), and Power Balance (equal vs dominance). Conflict is normal and healthy to resolve; bullying requires intervention."
Key Rule: "Conflict is solved through compromise; bullying is stopped through reporting." Page 1 of 2
20-Minute Protocol
Triage Drills & Grade-Specific Action
Pacing Guide
3 Segment 3: Rapid Triage Drills & I-Statement Practice 8:00–14:00 (6 Min)
Drill A (Conflict): "Two students grab the last swing."
👉 Equal power. Practice: "Let's do 10 swings each or rock-paper-scissors."
Drill B (Bullying): "Every day in line, Marcus pushes Devon and smirks."
👉 Repeated + Imbalance. Practice: Loud & Proud STOP + immediate teacher report.
UBNE Loud & Proud Boundary Formula:
"I feel [emotion] when you [specific action]. I need you to [clear boundary]."
Teacher Coaching: When to Teach Ignoring vs. Speaking Up
✅ OK to Ignore: Minor, harmless annoyances (silly noises, rolling eyes) with no physical/emotional threat.
Spotting the Difference Slides Week 2 Courage & Care Crew
Grades K–4
Bullying vs. Conflict vs. Mean Behavior
Look at the visual clues! Learn how to spot what is happening and use your Loud and Proud Voice appropriately.
🔍 Visual Clues ⚖️ Equal vs Power Imbalance 🗣️ Loud & Proud Boundary
The Visual Behavior Decoder
4 Kinds of Interactions
1. RUDE 😬 💨
Accidental
Not thinking. Forgetting manners or bumping someone by mistake.
🗣️ "Oops! Excuse me!"
2. MEAN 😠 💥
One-Time Hurt
Purposeful unkind words said in anger, but not repeated over time.
🗣️ "That hurt. Stop."
3. CONFLICT ⚖️ 🤝
Equal Disagreement
Two peers want different things. Both have equal power to speak.
🗣️ "Let's take turns."
4. BULLYING 🛑 🔁
Repeated + Power
Targeted hurt over and over with an unfair power imbalance.
🚨 STOP + Get Adult
💡 Look at the icons: Accident (😬) • One-Time (😠) • Equal (⚖️) • Repeated Bullying (🛑)
Behavior Detective: What Is It?
🤔 Vote Before Reveal!
Case #1: The Basketball Dispute 🏀 ❓
"Liam and Ethan both want to be team captain. They yell at each other for 2 minutes about who picks first."
What is your verdict? 🤔
Is it Rude, Mean, Conflict, or Bullying?
Case #2: The Daily Hallway Tripping 🎒 ❓
"Every Tuesday, two older kids block Leo's locker, laugh, and kick his backpack across the floor."
What is your verdict? 🤔
Is it Rude, Mean, Conflict, or Bullying?
🗣️ Turn and tell your partner your guess and WHY!
Detective Verdicts: The Answers!
✅ Case Closed
Case #1: The Basketball Dispute 🏀 ⚖️
VERDICT: CONFLICT (⚖️)
Why: Two peers have equal power arguing over the same goal. They need to negotiate, take turns, or play rock-paper-scissors!
Action: Talk it out & Compromise
Case #2: The Daily Hallway Tripping 🎒 🛑
VERDICT: BULLYING (🛑)
Why: It is repeated (every Tuesday), intentional hurt, and there is a power imbalance (older kids vs. Leo).
Action: Use Loud & Proud + Get Adult Help
Remember: Conflict = Equal power. Bullying = Repeated + Power imbalance.
Action Guide
Behavior Decoder Poster UBNE Behavior Decision Guide
IS IT RUDE, MEAN, CONFLICT, OR BULLYING?
LOUD & PROUD VOICES = BRAVERY • Spot the Visual Clues & Take Action!
1. RUDE 😬 💨
Accidental & Thoughtless
Saying or doing something without thinking. Forgetting manners or bumping someone by accident.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Action: "Oops! Excuse me, please watch your step."
2. MEAN 😠 💥
On-Purpose, But One-Time
Purposeful unkind words or actions said in anger, but not repeated over time.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Action: "That was hurtful and not okay. Stop."
3. CONFLICT ⚖️ 🤝
Equal Power Disagreement
Two peers want different things. Both have equal power to speak and negotiate.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Action: "Let's take turns or play rock, paper, scissors!"
4. BULLYING 🛑 🔁
Repeated + Power Imbalance
Targeted hurt done on purpose over and over with an unfair power imbalance.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Action: "STOP! + Go get a teacher immediately!"
WHEN IS IT OKAY TO IGNORE? (DECISION RULE)
✅ OK TO IGNORE: Minor silly noises or eye rolling where nobody is hurt . Walking away removes their audience!
❌ NEVER IGNORE: Physical harm, threats, repeated targeted meanness, or power imbalance. Speak up or get help!
LOUD & PROUD VOICES = BRAVERY • RESOLVE CONFLICTS FAIRLY • STOP BULLYING!
Oops or Ouch Primary Worksheet 🦁
Grades K–1 • Week 2
Loud & Proud Voice = Bravery!
My Name:
🦁 REMEMBER: Using your Loud and Proud voice shows BRAVERY !
✏️ 1. TRACE YOUR BRAVE WORDS:
2 ❓ Which one is an ACCIDENT ("Oops!")? (Circle one):
🖍️ 🤝
Knocking crayons over and saying sorry "Oops! I am sorry!"
🥪 🛑
Taking someone else's snacks every day Mean on purpose
3 ⭕ Circle 4 BRAVE Ways to Solve a Disagreement (Cross out ❌ the wrong ones):
🤝 Take Turns / Share
👊 Yell / Hit / Push
✌️ Rock-Paper-Scissors
🙈 Stay Silent / Hide
🗣️ Talk It Out Calmly
📢 Loud & Proud Boundary
4 🎨 Draw Friends Solving a Disagreement with Bravery:
(Draw below)
Draw friends taking turns or talking nicely... Draw your speech bubble...
"We solve conflicts fairly with our Loud & Proud voice!"
UBNE Elementary SEL Series • Kindergarten & 1st Grade 🔍 Week 2
Conflict Triage Junior Worksheet Grades 2–3 • Week 2
Behavior Detective: Spotting the Difference
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: Solving conflicts fairly and standing up to bullying shows BRAVERY !
1 Match Each Scenario: Is it Rude, Mean, Conflict, or Bullying? (From Slide 2 & 3)
Word Bank: RUDE 😬 (Accident) • MEAN 😠 (One-time hurt) • CONFLICT ⚖️ (Equal power) • BULLYING 🛑 (Repeated + Power)
A. A friend burps during silent reading without saying excuse me.
Category:
B. Liam and Ethan argue loudly for 2 minutes about who picks the basketball team first.
Category:
C. Someone loses a board game and yells "You cheated!" once in anger.
Category:
D. Every Tuesday, two older kids block Leo's locker, laugh, and kick his backpack.
Category:
2 Build Your Loud & Proud "I-Statement" (Fill in each step from Slide 7)
Scenario: A classmate talks over you and grabs your pencil during partner work.
1. I FEEL: (Name your emotion clearly without yelling)
2. WHEN YOU: (Describe the specific behavior plainly)
3. I NEED YOU TO: (Set a clear, firm boundary for what happens next)
3 🎨 Draw Friends Solving an Equal Conflict (Slide 4 Action):
(Taking turns / rock-paper-scissors / talking)
Draw two peers sharing or compromising fairly...
"Equal power = Talk it out, take turns & Compromise!"
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grades 2–3 🔍 Week 2
Conflict Matrix Upper Worksheet Grade 4 • Week 2
Behavior Matrix & Conflict De-Escalation
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: De-escalating conflicts and speaking up against bullying shows BRAVERY !
1 The 4-Category Behavioral Decoder Matrix (Slide 2 Reference)
Category Intent & Pattern Power Balance UBNE Action Rude 😬 Accidental / Unplanned Equal power Polite reminder ("Excuse me") Mean 😠 Intentional / One-Time Equal power Loud & Proud Boundary Conflict ⚖️ Disagreement on goal Equal power Talk it out & Compromise Bullying 🛑 Intentional & Repeated Power Imbalance Adult Intervention
2 Case Study Analysis: Conflict vs. Bullying (From Slide 3 & 4)
"During a game, Alex and Jordan argue loudly about whether the ball was in or out. Alex then turns to three peers in line and says: 'Nobody let Jordan play with us tomorrow, he's a crybaby.' Jordan feels intimidated and leaves."
A. Where did this switch from peer conflict to bullying behavior?
B. How can an upstander in line intervene with a Loud & Proud voice?
3 Decision Rule & 3-Part "I-Statement" Boundary (Slide 6 & 7)
✅ OK to Ignore: Minor eye-rolling/noises with NO harm.
❌ NEVER Ignore: Pushing, threats, repeated exclusion, or fear.
Write a 3-part Loud & Proud boundary (I feel... when you... I need you to...):
✓ Feet Planted ✓ Shoulders Back ✓ Eye Contact ✓ Clear Level 3 Voice
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grade 4 🔍 Week 2
Empathy Engine Teacher Guide Week 3 Facilitator Guide
Empathy, Kindness & Proactive Inclusion
20-Minute Core Lesson UBNE Schoolwide SEL
Lesson Timestamp & Pacing Breakdown (20 Min Total)
0:00–3:00 (3m) Hook & Perspective
3:00–8:00 (5m) Empathy Radar
8:00–14:00 (6m) Invitation Drills
14:00–20:00 (6m) Worksheet & Wrap
1 Segment 1: Hook & Stepping into Others' Shoes 0:00–3:00 (3 Min)
Teacher Script: "Scholars, empathy means feeling with our heart and thinking through someone else's shoes. Kindness is not just being quiet—it means using our Loud and Proud voice to actively invite and include others!"
2 Segment 2: The Empathy Radar (Tiered by Grade Span) 3:00–8:00 (5 Min)
Grades K–1 Focus ("The Open Rug Circle"):
"When someone is sitting alone looking at the floor, we don't wait for them to ask. We wave our hands and use our big friendly voice: 'Come sit with us! We have space for you!'"
Grades 2–3 Focus ("Recess Empathy Radar"):
"Our radar scans the playground. If a classmate is standing by the fence or holding their jacket alone, we walk over and give a clear Loud & Proud invite to join our four-square or tag game."
Grade 4 Focus ("Breaking Cliques & Celebrating Differences"):
"In 4th grade, inclusion requires active leadership. We dismantle exclusive cliques, welcome new students, and celebrate neurodiversity, different cultures, and languages."
Core Principle: "An active upstander creates belonging before exclusion can even start." Page 1 of 2
20-Minute Protocol
Inclusion Drills & Grade-Specific Action
Pacing Guide
3 Segment 3: Loud & Proud Invitation Drills 8:00–14:00 (6 Min)
Recess / Play Invitation:
🗣️ "Hey Jordan, come join our team! We need one more player!"
Cafeteria Table Invitation:
🗣️ "There's an open seat right here next to me! Sit with us!"
60-Second Partner Drill:
Turn to your shoulder partner. Practice giving a warm Loud & Proud invitation with smiling eye contact!
4 Segment 4: Grade Worksheet Completion & Reflection 14:00–20:00 (6 Min)
K–1 Worksheet Draw welcoming a friend; match happy/lonely faces.
2–3 Worksheet Empathy radar clues & stepping into new peer's shoes.
Grade 4 Worksheet Cliques vs open circles & diverse peer inclusion plan.
Closing Scholar Mantra (19:00–20:00): "Nobody sits alone, nobody plays alone—we make room for everyone!"
Heart and Inclusion Slides Week 3 UBNE Courage & Care Crew
Grades K–4
Empathy, Kindness & Inclusion
🦁 LOUD & PROUD INVITATIONS = BRAVERY!
Building an open circle where everyone belongs by using our Loud and Proud Voice to welcome others!
👟 Walk in Their Shoes ⭕ Open the Circle 🗣️ Loud & Proud Invitations
What Is Empathy?
Core Concept
👀 👟
Thinking with Their Shoes
Pausing to wonder: "How would I feel if I were standing alone or being left out?"
Perspective Taking
❤️ 🤝
Feeling with Your Heart
Caring about their feelings and taking action to make them feel supported and valued.
Compassion in Action
Empathy is our superpower to understand others and build a caring school community!
The Empathy Radar
Spotting Who Needs a Friend
🧍
Standing Alone
Watching games from the fence or walking by themselves.
😔
Looking Down
Head lowered, arms crossed, quiet body language.
🍱
Empty Seats
Sitting with an empty space around them in the cafeteria.
✨ When your Empathy Radar beeps, don't walk past—activate your Loud & Proud voice!
Loud & Proud Invitations = Bravery!
Inclusion in Action
Recess / Play
"Hey! Come play with us!"
Wave them in and explain the rules warmly.
Lunchroom
"Sit here! There's an open spot!"
Slide over and start a friendly conversation.
Classroom Rug
"We have room in our circle!"
Open up the circle physically and smile.
Differences
"That's so cool you do that!"
Celebrate different languages, hobbies, & cultures.
🗣️ Practice turning to your partner right now and giving a warm Loud & Proud invitation!
Our Kindness Mission
Every Day Habit
Nobody Sits Alone, Nobody Plays Alone
When we make our circle big enough for everyone, our classroom becomes a family where every student feels safe and loved.
🎨 Next: Create your Kindness & Inclusion Action Sheet!
Open Circle Primary Worksheet 🦁
Grades K–1 • Week 3
Loud & Proud Voice = Bravery!
My Name:
🦁 REMEMBER: Using your Loud and Proud voice to invite others shows BRAVERY !
✏️ 1. TRACE YOUR BRAVE WORD:
2 ⭕ Circle 4 BRAVE Ways to Include Others (Cross out ❌ the wrong ones):
👋 Smile & Wave In
🙈 Turn Back & Ignore
⭕ Open the Rug Circle
🤫 Whisper Secrets
🗣️ Say "Come Sit Here!"
🤝 Share Playground Game
3 ❓ Empathy Question: How does a friend feel when YOU invite them to play? (Circle one):
😊 🌟
Happy & Included! Feels safe and cared for
😢
Sad and Lonely Sitting all by themselves
4 🎨 Draw Friends Making Room for Someone New:
(Draw below)
Draw friends smiling and sitting together on the rug... Draw your speech bubble...
"At UBNE, nobody sits alone and nobody plays alone!"
UBNE Elementary SEL Series • Kindergarten & 1st Grade ❤️ Week 3
Empathy Radar Junior Worksheet Grades 2–3 • Week 3
The Playground Empathy Radar
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: Reaching out to invite someone new shows BRAVERY !
1 Spotting the Radar Clues: Who Needs an Invitation? (Check 3 clues)
Standing near the fence watching games
Laughing in the middle of a big group
Looking down at their shoes during line-up
Sitting alone at an empty cafeteria table
2 Stepping into Their Shoes (Perspective Taking from Slide 2)
Scenario: Maya is new to your school. At recess, she walks around the blacktop holding her jacket tightly.
A. How might Maya feel inside?
B. Why might she feel shy to ask to play?
3 Write Your Loud & Proud Invitation Statement
What can you say in your clear Level 3 voice to invite Maya into your game?
✓ Feet Planted ✓ Warm Smile ✓ Eye Contact ✓ Level 3 Voice
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grades 2–3 ❤️ Week 3
Belonging Leader Upper Worksheet Grade 4 • Week 3
Inclusion Leadership & Perspective Taking
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: Standing up to invite someone new and breaking cliques shows BRAVERY !
1 Closed Cliques vs. Open Circles in 4th Grade (From Slide 2)
Closed Clique:
Has unwritten rules on who can sit together.
Excludes others to make members feel "popular."
Uses silence or whispers when outsiders approach.
Open Circle:
Always shifts over to create an open chair.
Welcomes new classmates with warm eye contact.
Uses Loud & Proud voice to invite peers in.
2 Case Study: Welcoming Differences & Perspective Taking
"Samir wears noise-canceling headphones during noisy school assemblies because loud sounds feel overwhelming. Two students near him mockingly point to their ears and giggle."
A. What perspective can you take about Samir's needs?
B. How can you use your Loud & Proud voice to support Samir?
3 My Loud & Proud Inclusion Action Pledge
Write one concrete action you will take this week to welcome someone new to your group:
✓ Feet Planted ✓ Shoulders Back ✓ Eye Contact ✓ Clear Level 3 Voice
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grade 4 ❤️ Week 3
Upstander Action Teacher Guide Week 4 Facilitator Guide
Being an Upstander & Getting Help
20-Minute Core Lesson UBNE Schoolwide SEL
Lesson Timestamp & Pacing Breakdown (20 Min Total)
0:00–3:00 (3m) Bystander vs Upstander
3:00–8:00 (5m) 4 D's Toolkit
8:00–14:00 (6m) Reporting vs Tattling
14:00–20:00 (6m) Worksheet & Oath
1 Segment 1: Hook & Choosing to Stand Up 0:00–3:00 (3 Min)
Teacher Script: "Scholars, a bystander watches and stays quiet, which lets bullying grow. An Upstander uses their Loud and Proud voice to take safe action. When 1 person speaks up, bullying stops in under 10 seconds!"
2 Segment 2: The 4 D's Upstander Toolkit (Tiered by Grade Span) 3:00–8:00 (5 Min)
1. DIRECT (Loud & Proud) "Stop, that's not kind."
2. DISTRACT (Pivot) "Come on, game is starting!"
3. DELEGATE (Adult Help) "Teacher, someone needs help."
4. DELAY (Post-Care) "Are you okay? Walk with me."
• K–1: Focus on Distract ("Come play") & Delegate ("Tell a teacher") .
• 2–3: Introduce all 4 D's; practice choosing the safest move.
• Grade 4: Emphasize silent complicity: refuse to laugh or film; report directly to staff.
Key Motto: "At UBNE, Upstanders make our school a family of safety and care." Page 1 of 2
20-Minute Protocol
Reporting Drills & Upstander Oath
Pacing Guide
3 Segment 3: Reporting vs. Tattling & Teacher Report Formula 8:00–14:00 (6 Min)
Tattling 👎 (Unhelpful)
Goal: To get someone in trouble for minor, harmless stuff.
Reporting 👍 (Hero Move)
Goal: To keep someone safe from hurt, fear, or bullying.
3-Sentence Teacher Report Formula:
1. "Excuse me teacher, I need to report an unsafe situation."
2. "[Name] is repeatedly being pushed/teased near [Location]."
3. "They asked them to stop and they won't. Please step in."
4 Segment 4: Grade Worksheet Completion & Upstander Oath 14:00–20:00 (6 Min)
K–1 Worksheet 3-panel superhero comic & super move check.
2–3 Worksheet 4 D's scenario matching & signed Upstander Oath.
Grade 4 Worksheet Strategic 4-D triage & formal reporting script.
UBNE Upstander Oath (19:00–20:00): "I am an Upstander! I stand tall, speak clear, and use my Loud & Proud voice for kindness!"
Upstander Power Slides Week 4 UBNE Courage & Care Crew
Grades K–4
Being an Upstander & Getting Help
🦁 BEING AN UPSTANDER = BRAVERY!
Don't just stand by—stand UP! Master the 4 Upstander Moves and use your Loud and Proud Voice to keep our school safe.
🛡️ Bystander vs Upstander ⚡ The 4 D's Toolkit 🗣️ Loud & Proud Reporting
Bystander vs. Upstander
The Choice Is Yours
BYSTANDER
🤐 🚶♂️
Watches in Silence
Sees someone being mistreated but does nothing, walks away, or giggles along. Gives the bully more power.
❌ Silence allows bullying to continue
UPSTANDER 🦸
🗣️ 🤝
Takes Safe Action
Uses their Loud and Proud voice, reaches out to help the target, or gets a trusted adult immediately!
✨ Upstanders make our school safe!
When 1 person speaks up, bullying stops in under 10 seconds over half the time!
The 4 Upstander Super Moves
The 4 D's
1. DIRECT
Speak Up
Tell them firmly to stop using your Loud & Proud voice.
"Stop, that is not okay."
2. DISTRACT
Change Focus
Interrupt safely and pull the target away to play.
"Come on, game is starting!"
3. DELEGATE
Get an Adult
Report to a teacher or staff member right away.
"Teacher, someone needs help."
4. DELAY
Check In After
Comfort the person and make sure they feel cared for.
"Are you okay? Walk with me."
💡 Choose the move that is safest and best for the situation!
Reporting vs. Tattling
Know the Difference
👎 TATTLING Unhelpful
Purpose: To get someone in trouble .
No one is hurt or in real danger.
Could easily be ignored or solved alone.
👍 REPORTING Hero Move
Purpose: To keep someone safe .
Someone is hurt, scared, or targeted.
Needs an adult's help to solve.
📢 When someone is being bullied, telling a teacher is ALWAYS reporting!
Our Upstander Oath
UBNE Courage & Care
I Am an Upstander!
🦁 BEING AN UPSTANDER = BRAVERY!
I stand tall. I speak clear. I use my Loud and Proud voice to protect my classmates and keep our school safe!
Upstander Power Poster UBNE Upstander Action Guide
BE AN UPSTANDER!
LOUD & PROUD VOICES = BRAVERY • Stand UP for Others at UBNE!
1. DIRECT 📢
Use Your Voice Directly
Speak up firmly to the person being hurtful. Set an immediate boundary.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Line: "Stop, we don't treat friends that way."
2. DISTRACT 🎯
Change the Situation
Interrupt safely and pull the target away before things get worse.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Line: "Come on, the game is starting over here!"
3. DELEGATE 🚨
Get a Trusted Adult
Find a teacher or staff member right away if someone is unsafe or hurt.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Line: "Teacher, I need to report an unsafe situation."
4. DELAY ❤️
Support Afterward
Check in with the targeted person so they know they are not alone.
🗣️ Loud & Proud Line: "I saw that, it wasn't cool. Are you okay?"
🛡️ Remember: Reporting is NOT Tattling! Safety First
Tattling tries to get someone in trouble for small things. Reporting keeps someone safe from real hurt. An Upstander ALWAYS reports bullying!
LOUD & PROUD VOICES = BRAVERY • BE AN UPSTANDER AT UBNE!
Upstander Hero Primary Worksheet 🦁
Grades K–1 • Week 4
Loud & Proud Voice = Bravery!
My Name:
🦁 REMEMBER: Using your Loud and Proud voice to help others shows BRAVERY !
✏️ 1. TRACE YOUR BRAVE WORD:
2 🎨 Draw Your 3-Step Upstander Comic (Draw what happens next):
1. I Spot a Friend Alone
Draw someone alone...
👀 Look & Notice
2. Loud & Proud Voice!
Draw yourself speaking up...
🗣️ "Come play!"
3. Safe & Smiling!
Draw friends happy...
😊 Safe Friends
3 🖍️ 3 Upstander Super Badges (Color the stars):
📢 Speak Clear
🤝 Invite Others
🚨 Tell a Teacher
UBNE Elementary SEL Series • Kindergarten & 1st Grade 🦸 Week 4
Four Moves Junior Worksheet Grades 2–3 • Week 4
The 4 Upstander Moves & Bravery
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: Standing up to protect a friend shows BRAVERY !
1 Match Each Upstander Move to Its Action (From Slide 3)
Word Bank: DIRECT (Speak up) • DISTRACT (Change focus) • DELEGATE (Get adult) • DELAY (Check in after)
A. "Stop, that is unkind. We don't talk like that."
Move:
B. "Hey Jordan! Come over here, our game has an open spot!"
Move:
C. "Teacher, someone is being pushed repeatedly by the fence."
Move:
D. "I saw what happened. Are you okay? Walk with me."
Move:
2 Tattling or Reporting? (Circle one & explain your reason from Slide 4)
Scenario 1: An older student blocks a 2nd grader from the bathroom door every recess.
Tattling Reporting
Why?
Scenario 2: A classmate used the yellow marker before you did.
Tattling Reporting
Why?
Official UBNE Upstander Oath
"I promise to stand up, speak up, and use my Loud and Proud voice for kindness. I will never be a silent bystander when someone needs a friend."
Student Signature:
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grades 2–3 🦸 Week 4
Active Upstander Upper Worksheet Grade 4 • Week 4
Active Upstanders & Safe Reporting
Name:
Date:
🦁 UBNE STANDARD: Standing up to protect peers and safely reporting bullying shows BRAVERY !
1 Strategic Upstander Decision Making (Direct, Distract, Delegate, Delay from Slide 3)
Situation A: Hallway Whispering & Snickering
A group laughs at a student who dropped their folders and takes photos with a phone.
Best Move:
(Direct / Distract / Delegate / Delay)
Situation B: Physical Cornering Behind the Bleachers
Two older students block a younger peer in a secluded corner and threaten physical harm.
Best Move:
(Direct / Distract / Delegate / Delay)
2 Loud & Proud Teacher Reporting Script (From Slide 4)
Write out the exact 3 sentences you would deliver to an adult when reporting bullying:
1. State Urgency & Tone: ("Excuse me Mr./Ms. _______, I need to report an unsafe situation.")
2. Specific Facts: (State Who, What, Where, and that it is repeated)
3. Direct Action Request: ("Can you please come intervene right now?")
3 Overcoming the Bystander Effect
"When everyone thinks someone else will speak up, nobody does. Why is having ONE brave person step forward so powerful?"
UBNE Courage & Care Crew • Grade 4 🦸 Week 4
