Peace Protocol Worksheet
Peace Protocol Worksheet
Stage 1 • Interpersonal De-escalation & Needs Analysis
SEL Skill Builder
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1. Conceptual Anchor: Positions vs. Core Needs
The Surface Position (What We Demand)
The rigid demand, stance, or accusation stated out loud. ("You can never use my laptop again!" or "You're kicking me out of the group.")
The Deep Need (What We Truly Care About)
The underlying human motive: safety, respect, fairness, autonomy, trust, or connection. Resolutions happen at the need level, not the position level.
2. The Reframe Engine: The Constructive "I-Statement"
Formula: I feel [Emotion] when [Specific Event] because I need [Core Value]. Would you be willing to [Action]?
Reactive "You-Statement": "You always slack off on our science slides and force me to do all the work right before deadline!"
Transform into a restorative I-Statement (fill in the four formula components):
Reactive "You-Statement": "You blabbed my personal secret to the entire lunch table just to make yourself look cool!"
Transform into a restorative I-Statement:
3. Conflict Case Dissection: "The Lost Spotlight"
Context: Maya and Jordan co-created a design poster for the school charity campaign. During the award announcement, the advisor publicly praised Jordan by name, omitting Maya. Jordan smiled, accepted the certificate, and did not mention Maya's contribution. Maya walked away furious, muted Jordan in all group chats, and vented publicly on social media.
A. Maya's Underlying Need (Not just surface anger):
B. Escalation Trap: How did Maya's response escalate conflict?
C. Jordan's Potential Blindspot or Unmet Need:
D. De-escalation Opening Script: What can Jordan say first to initiate repair?
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Stage 2 • Collaborative Problem-Solving
Win-Win Negotiation Matrix & Personal De-escalation Action Plan
Section B
4. Diagnostic: The Five Conflict Navigation Modes
Avoid
Withdraw / Delay
Lose / Lose
Accommodate
Give In / Yield
Lose / Win
Compete
Dominate / Win
Win / Lose
Compromise
Split the Difference
Partial / Partial
Collaborate
Invent 3rd Option
Win / Win
5. The Win-Win Negotiation Matrix
Choose a current or realistic disagreement (with a classmate, friend, or sibling). Complete the negotiation blueprint below to design a mutually respectful resolution.
My Side (Person A)
What is my non-negotiable priority? What can I be flexible on?
Their Side (Person B)
What is their core concern? What do they value most in this?
The Third Way: The Proposed Collaborative Solution
What is a creative agreement that fulfills BOTH parties' core needs without forcing one to surrender?
6. Personal De-escalation & Emotional Safety Contract
My Physical Clues
When I start escalating, I notice:
Clenched jaw/fists Raised voice tone Racing heartbeat Shutting down / freezing
My Reset Phrase
Write your exact 1-sentence script to request a 10-minute pause without stonewalling:
Restorative Repair
One genuine action I can take after cooling down to show goodwill:
Pledge: I commit to addressing conflict directly with respectful language before seeking outside escalation.
Signature:
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