Be a Buddy Lesson Plan Be a Buddy, Not a Bully
Tier 1 Classroom Lesson • 5th Grade
30 Minutes
Objective
Students will identify various abilities and understand the impact of bullying on individuals who may learn or move differently. Students will learn strategies to be upstanders and create an inclusive environment for all classmates.
Why It Matters
Understanding and accepting different abilities is crucial for building a kind and supportive community. This lesson helps students develop empathy, recognize bullying behaviors, and empowers them to take action, making school a safe place for everyone.
Prep & Materials
Slide Deck & Projector
Upstander Worksheets (1/student)
Review privacy & student sensitivities
Instructional Steps
1
Warm-Up: Diverse Abilities
5 MIN
Project the title slide. Begin with a brief discussion: "Think about all the different ways people learn, move, and interact with the world. What makes each of us unique and special?"
Teacher Tip: Guide students to share examples of diverse abilities (art, math, running, listening vs. doing). Emphasize that everyone has unique strengths.
2
Understanding Bullying & Impact
10 MIN
Use the Slide Deck to define bullying (Repeated, Purposeful, Power Imbalance). Focus on empathy: "Imagine someone finds it harder to understand things quickly or needs extra time. How might bullying affect them even more deeply?"
Verbal: Name-calling about learning style.
Physical: Tripping someone who moves differently.
Social: Leaving someone out of a game.
3
Upstander Action Brainstorm
5 MIN
Distribute the Upstander Action Worksheet . Explain that an 'upstander' supports and stands up for others.
Say: "Hey, let's include everyone!"
Do: Invite them to sit at lunch.
Tell: Find a trusted teacher or adult.
4
Share & Commit
5 MIN
Bring the class together to share 'upstander actions'. Summarize key takeaways:
Everyone is Unique Bullying Hurts You are an Upstander
Students sign the pledge at the bottom of their worksheet.
Optional Extensions
Upstander Posters
Students design posters illustrating upstander actions to display in the halls.
Journal Reflection
Students write a private reflection on a time they were an upstander or their future plan.
Be a Buddy Slides Be a Buddy,
Not a Bully
Celebrating unique abilities and learning how to stand up for one another.
Grade 5 • Tier 1 Lesson
You Are Unique! We All Are!
What makes you, YOU?
Different talents
Different ways of learning
Different ways of moving
Different ways of communicating
"Everyone has special qualities and ways of being in the world!"
Note
Welcome students. Ask them to think about what makes them unique. Guide them toward strengths and diverse ways people interact with the world.
What is Bullying?
The 3 Rules
1. Repeated: It happens over and over.
2. On Purpose: Tries to hurt or doesn't care if they do.
3. Power: The bully feels bigger or "in charge."
Types:
Verbal: Teasing/Names
Physical: Hurting/Pushing
Social: Excluding others
Note
Define bullying clearly. Discuss how it can target people who learn or move differently, even if unintentional.
Wait! Is it Bullying?
Sometimes things are difficult, but not bullying.
NOT Bullying:
Accidental bumps or trips.
Arguments between friends.
Making a mistake without meaning to be mean.
Not getting picked for a game (one time).
What to do?
1
Use your words: "That hurt my feelings."
2
Ask for help from a friend or adult.
3
Remember: Mistakes happen!
Note
Clarify that not every interaction is bullying. This helps students identify real bullying while validating their feelings in minor conflicts.
How Does Bullying Feel?
Imagine...
Someone needs extra time to finish. Someone communicates differently. Someone is trying hard to make friends but finds it difficult.
"Bullying hurts everyone."
It is especially tough for those already working hard to navigate the world in their own way.
Note
Focus on empathy. Encourage students to step into someone else's shoes and understand the weight of mean words.
Be an UPSTANDER!
You have the power to make a difference!
SUPPORT
Upstander Action Worksheet Upstander Action Brainstorm
Be a Buddy, Not a Bully Mission
Name:
Date:
An upstander is someone who supports and stands up for others. Everyone has unique abilities and ways of learning or moving. Your mission is to think of real ways you can be an amazing upstander in our school!
1
What can you SAY?
Example: "Hey, let's include everyone!" or "That's not kind, please stop."
2
What can you DO?
Example: Invite them to play, or sit with them at lunch if they are alone.
3
How can you INCLUDE others?
How can you make sure classmates with different abilities can participate in games or group work?
4
Who can you TELL?
If you don't feel safe or don't know what to do, which trusted adults can you talk to?
My Upstander Pledge
"I promise to be a buddy, not a bully. I will try my best to be an upstander and make our school a welcoming and kind place for everyone!"
Signature:
Upstander Journal Reflection Upstander Reflection
Private Journal Entry
Think about a time you saw someone being treated unfairly because of their unique abilities. What happened?
How did seeing that make you feel? If you were an upstander, what did you do? If not, what do you wish you had done?
What is one specific action you will take this week to be a buddy to someone who might need extra support?
"No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted."