Speak Up Stand Strong Lesson Plan Speak Up, Stand Strong
Building Assertive Communication & Self-Advocacy
Duration
2 Hours (Single Session)
Audience
Adult Male Students with Disabilities
Objective
Identify mean comments, understand impact, and practice assertive response techniques.
Approach
Interactive discussion, role-playing, and practical exercises.
Why This Matters
Learning to stand up for yourself against mean comments is crucial for building self-esteem, setting healthy boundaries, and fostering respectful interactions. It empowers individuals to advocate for themselves and maintain a positive sense of self in all aspects of life.
Preparation & Materials
Review all lesson materials and teacher script
Set up projector/Smartboard for slide deck
Print copies of worksheets and reading materials
Prepare pens, pencils, and any writing aids
Checklist
Warm-Up Sheet
Action Plan Worksheet
Reading Passage
Quick Quiz
Lesson Sequence
10 min
Warm Up: What's Your Word?
Students reflect on feelings tied to mean comments. Anonymous sharing of "feeling words" to ground the session.
15 min
Introduction & Setting the Stage
Use slide deck to define goals. Establish the classroom as a safe space for growth and respect.
25 min
Understanding Mean Comments
Distribute reading material. Discuss different types of comments and why people might use them.
30 min
Assertive Responses: Discussion & Strategies
Compare passive, aggressive, and assertive styles. Introduce "I" statements and specific assertive phrases.
25 min
Practice Makes Perfect: Role-Playing
Interactive scenarios. Students practice body language, tone, and phrases in a supportive environment.
15 min
My Action Plan
Personalized worksheet. Students choose their "go-to" phrases and identify support people.
10 min
Quick Check: Quiz
Check for understanding of key concepts (body language, types of responses).
10 min
Cool Down & Wrap Up
One big takeaway sharing. Final encouragement and affirmation of self-worth.
Speak Up Stand Strong Slides Deck Speak Up, Stand Strong
Responding to Mean Comments with Confidence and Respect
Identify hurtful remarks
Learn assertive responses
Understand your feelings
Build your confidence
Teacher: Welcome students. Emphasize that this is a safe space for everyone.
What are Mean Comments?
Words that are intended to be unkind, critical, or hurtful.
They can make you feel:
Sad
Angry
Confused
Embarrassed
It is NOT your fault when someone says something mean.
Teacher: Refer back to the Warm-Up activity. Acknowledge that feelings are valid.
Types of Mean Comments
Direct & Social
Direct Insults: "You're stupid."
Teasing: "Look at him, he always messes up."
Excluding: Making you feel left out.
Digital & Indirect
Online Comments: Hurtful social media messages.
Whispering: Talking about you nearby.
Sarcasm: Mean jokes disguised as "fun."
Mean comments can come from anyone, anywhere.
How Do We Usually React?
Passive
Staying quiet, avoiding the person, or "shrinking."
Aggressive
Yelling back, fighting, or name-calling.
Assertive
Standing up for yourself calmly and respectfully.
Today, we focus on ASSERTIVE!
What is Assertive Communication?
Speaking up for yourself clearly and respectfully.
Expressing your thoughts and feelings honestly.
Setting boundaries without being rude or aggressive.
"It's about being strong, not mean."
Assertive Phrases to Use
"Please don't talk to me that way."
"I don't like it when you say that."
"That comment is not okay."
"I feel hurt when you say [X]."
"I need you to stop."
"Let's talk about something else."
Teacher: Encourage students to think about which phrases feel most natural for them.
It's Not Just What You Say...
...It's also HOW you say it!
Eye Contact
Look them in the eye (if comfortable).
Posture
Stand tall, shoulders back.
Tone of Voice
Speak clearly, calmly, and firmly.
Expression
Serious face, not angry face.
Speaking Up Teacher Script Teacher Script
Speak Up, Stand Strong
Lesson Duration: 120 min
1. Introduction & Warm-Up (10 min)
Materials: Warm Up Worksheet
Say: "Good morning/afternoon, everyone! Thanks for being here today. We're going to talk about something that almost everyone experiences at some point: dealing with mean comments. It's a tough topic, but a really important one for all of us."
Say: "To start, let's do a quick 'Warm Up' called 'What's Your Word?' I want you to think about a time someone said something mean to you, or you heard a mean comment directed at someone else. Don't worry about sharing the actual comment; just think about how it made you feel. On your warm-up sheet, write down one word that describes that feeling."
(Pause for students to write. Walk around to offer support if needed.)
Say: "Take a moment to write that down. Okay, now, I'm going to go around and I'd like each of you to just share that one feeling word, without any other details. For example, my word might be 'frustrated.' Who would like to start?"
(Facilitate sharing. Acknowledge each feeling with empathy. Thank students for their honesty.)
Say: "Thank you for sharing. It's clear that mean comments can make us feel many different things, and it's okay to feel that way. Today, we're going to learn some ways to handle those feelings and respond in a way that makes us feel strong and respected."
2. Setting the Stage (15 min)
Materials: Slide Deck (Slides 1-2)
Say: "Let's look at our slides now. Our lesson today is called 'Speak Up, Stand Strong.' Our goal is to learn how to identify mean comments, understand how they make us feel, and most importantly, learn assertive ways to respond."
Say: "Mean comments are words intended to be unkind or hurtful. They are never okay. Remember: it is not your fault when someone says something mean to you. You deserve respect."
3. Understanding Mean Comments (25 min)
Materials: Reading Passage, Discussion Guide, Slide 3
Say: "Mean comments can come in many forms—insults, teasing, whispering, or online. Now, I have a short reading for you that talks more about why people might say these things and why it's important to respond. Please take a few minutes to read this. I'll hand it out now."
(Distribute Reading. Allow 5-7 minutes. Read aloud for the class if appropriate for the group.)
Say: "Now that we've read this, let's talk about it. What did the reading say about why people make mean comments? Why is it important to respond, even if it's hard?"
(Use the Discussion Guide questions to facilitate a deeper conversation.)
4. Assertive Responses (30 min)
Whats Your Word Warm Up Worksheet Warm Up: What's Your Word?
Speak Up, Stand Strong
Name:
Date:
Think about a time someone said something mean to you, or you heard a mean comment. How did it make you feel?
Instructions:
Write down one word that describes that feeling in the box below. We won't share details about the comments, just the feeling words.
Your Word
"Your feelings are valid, and you are not alone."
Understanding Mean Comments Reading Passage Understanding Mean Comments
Reading Passage
Sometimes, people say things that are unkind, hurtful, or just plain mean. These are called mean comments. They can be spoken words, whispers, jokes that aren't funny, or even things written online. No matter how they are said, mean comments can make us feel bad inside. They might make us feel sad, angry, confused, or even embarrassed.
Why Do People Make Mean Comments?
It can be hard to understand why someone would say something mean. Here are a few reasons why people might do it, though it never makes it right:
• They are feeling bad themselves: People who are unhappy or insecure might try to make others feel bad to feel better for a short time.
• They want attention: Some people make mean comments to get a reaction from others, even if it's negative attention.
• They don't understand: They might not realize how much their words can hurt or haven't learned how to be respectful.
• They are trying to fit in: In some groups, people might think making fun of others helps them belong. This is a poor choice.
• They are trying to control you: Some use mean comments to try and make you feel small so they can feel more powerful.
It's important to remember: their reasons are about THEM, not about YOU. You are valuable.
Why is it Important to Respond?
It can be scary to respond to a mean comment, but it's important for these reasons:
Protects Your Feelings
You are telling the person their words are not okay and protecting your emotional well-being.
Sets Boundaries
You are teaching others how you expect to be treated and setting clear rules for your interactions.
Builds Confidence
Standing up for yourself makes you feel stronger and more capable over time.
Stops the Behavior
An assertive response can make someone think twice before being unkind again.
Responding doesn't mean you have to be mean back. It means you choose to be strong, clear, and respectful of yourself.
Responding Assertively Discussion Guide Discussion Guide
Responding Assertively
Teachers: Use these questions to guide a class discussion after the reading and slides. Students can use the space below to jot down their thoughts or group ideas.
1. Reflecting on the Reading
A. What was one important thing you learned about why people make mean comments?
B. The reading said it's important to respond. Why do you think it's important to speak up, even if it feels difficult?
C. Have you ever felt one of the feelings mentioned in the reading (sad, angry, confused, embarrassed) after a mean comment? How did that feel?
2. Comparing Response Types
A. Can you explain the difference between passive, aggressive, and assertive responses in your own words?
B. Can you think of a time when being passive or aggressive might have made things worse later on?
C. Why do you think an assertive response is usually the most helpful for your confidence?
3. Practicing Assertiveness
A. Which assertive phrase from the slides do you think you might try to use? Why does it fit you?
B. What are some body language tips you want to remember (eye contact, posture, voice)?
C. If someone keeps being mean even after you speak up, why is it important to know when to walk away?
D. Who is one person you trust that you could talk to for support if you experienced a mean comment?
Role Playing Responses Activity Sheet Practice: Role-Playing Responses
Putting Skills into Action
Tips for Success:
Stay calm & breathe
Use "I" statements
Stand tall & firm
Okay to walk away
Scenario 1: The Unwanted Nickname Social Setting
"Imagine you are at a group gathering, and someone you know starts calling you a nickname you don't like, even after you've asked them to stop before. They laugh and shout it across the room."
How would you feel?
Assertive phrase to use?
Scenario 2: Criticism of Your Work Work/Project Setting
"You've just finished a project you worked hard on. Someone looks at it and says, 'That's not very good. You always mess things up.'"
How would you feel?
Assertive phrase to use?
Scenario 3: Whispering & Teasing Group Setting
"You walk into a room and a group starts whispering. One says loudly, 'Look who it is. We were just talking about how clumsy you are,' and they all laugh."
How would you feel?
What if they don't stop?
Scenario 4: The Online Comment Digital Setting
"Someone posts a picture of you online that you didn't want shared. Someone comments, 'Haha, look at [Name], so clumsy!' and others 'Like' it."
Immediate action to take?
Who could you talk to?
Remember: The more we practice, the easier it becomes to speak up in real life.
My Action Plan Worksheet My Action Plan
Speak Up, Stand Strong
Student Name
Date
"This plan will help you feel more prepared and confident if someone says something unkind to you. Use what we learned today to fill in your personal strategy."
1 My Assertive Phrases
Write down 2-3 phrases that feel natural for you to say (e.g., "I don't like it when you say that.")
2 My Body Language
How will you stand? What will your voice sound like? What will your eyes do?
3 My Safety Plan
What is your plan if the person doesn't stop or gets angry? (e.g., walking away, asking for help).
4 My Support People
Who are 1-2 trusted adults you can talk to for help or support?
Support Person 1
Support Person 2
5 My Self-Talk Statement
Write one positive reminder you can say to yourself (e.g., "I am strong and worthy of respect.")
I am strong. I am capable. I am valuable.
Standing Strong Quiz Quiz: Standing Strong
Reviewing Our Skills
Student Info
Date
1
Which of these is the BEST way to respond to a mean comment?
Yell back at the person.
Ignore them and walk away silently every time.
Say clearly, "I don't like that comment," and explain how you feel.
Start crying and run away.
2
When you use "I" statements (like "I feel hurt when you say that"), what are you doing?
Being aggressive.
Being passive.
Being assertive and focusing on your feelings.
Trying to make the other person feel bad.
3
Which of these is NOT an example of confident body language when speaking up?
Standing tall.
Making eye contact (if comfortable).
Speaking in a clear, firm voice.
Slouching and looking at the floor.
4
Why is it important to have a plan for what to do if an assertive response doesn't work?
5
If someone makes a mean comment online, what is a good first step to take?
Post an even meaner comment back.
Delete all your social media accounts immediately.
Block the person and report the comment.
Show the comment to everyone you know to get them to gang up on the person.
One Big Takeaway Cool Down Worksheet Cool Down: One Big Takeaway
Reflecting on the Lesson
Student Name:
Date:
Think about everything we discussed today about how to speak up and stand strong against mean comments.
Your Reflection:
What is one main thing you learned, or one important idea you will try to remember from today's lesson?
"Speaking up is a superpower."